The 10 surprising 推論する／理由s why your 50s is best the １０年間 of all - 含むing stronger friendships, a settled mind and wild SEX!

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The midlife 危機 is both the stuff of legend and the butt of jokes. Scientists say the myth is real - as work and life 強調する／ストレス 頂点（に達する）s?in our 40s and 50s, 主要な to 不景気, 強調する／ストレス and insomnia.?

一方／合間, no one could have 行方不明になるd?Jeff Bezos's ありそうもない rebirth - in his late 50s - 完全にする with 肌-tight muscle shirts, $400m ヨット, and Cheshire cat grin as he 護衛するs his sexy new fiancee around the world.

But what if the 変形 we experience in midlife is いっそう少なく a 危機 - 主要な 必然的に to illness, decrepitude, and death - and more a chrysalis, taking us into the next 30 years or more of healthy, happy living?

In his new 調書をとる／予約する, Learning to Love Midlife: 12 推論する／理由s Why Life Gets Better with Age, entrepreneur and Airbnb (n)役員／(a)執行力のある 半導体素子 Conley 公式文書，認めるs that half of all children born into the developed world today could live to the age of 100.

Another stu dy 明言する／公表するs that if you make it to age 65 in the US today, there's at least a 50 パーセント chance you'll make it past 85. That's 8,000 more days to do… what?

Who could have 行方不明になるd Jeff Bezos's ありそうもない rebirth - in his late 50s - 完全にする with Cheshire cat grin as he 護衛するs his sexy new fiancee around the world.

THE MAN REDEFINING MIDLIFE?

半導体素子 Conley says midlife 'isn't the beginning of the end, but rather the long intermission of a four-行為／法令／行動する play.'

'A century ago, you might have been dead by this age. But today, if we live a healthy life at 50, we may get another 50 years.'

半導体素子 つまずくd over his 評価 for 中央の-life 老年の 50, に引き続いて a 一連の unfortunate life events - 含むing the 決裂／故障 of his long-称する，呼ぶ／期間／用語 関係 and the demise of his?商売／仕事 - a hugely successful string of boutique hotels called Joie de Vivre that had played host to David Bowie, Linda Ronstadt, and Johnny Depp.

Worse, he lost five male friends to 自殺.

半導体素子 Conley (left) started embrace the 高齢化 過程 after five male friends committed 自殺 in midlife, then he had his own 近づく-death experience

At the age of 50, he sold his company for $10m, ended his romantic 関係, and?then started wondering what was next.

Then, he got the call from Airbnb - an up-and-coming start-up at the time. He agreed to go on board as 長，率いる of 全世界の 歓待 and 戦略.

Now 63, he says his 50s were 'a 発覚… a time when I developed into the man I was always meant to be'. And he's made it his 使節団 to 納得させる the world that the words 'midlife' and '危機' needn't go together.

Here, he 明らかにする／漏らすs the 10 surprising 推論する／理由s why he believes 中央の-life is the happiest, healthiest period than any other period.

YOU EMBRACE YOUR AGING BODY...WHICH LEADS TO BETTER SEX!??

An 増加するing 禁止（する）d of celebrities are embracing the 高齢化 過程 - 解放する／自由なd by the fact that they are no longer defined by their 青年 or their 団体／死体s.

And Conley says instead of thinking of the changes negatively, far better to see them as a wonderful thing - you are lucky to have lived long enough to experience the 調印するs of natura l 高齢化.?

Emma Thompson stood, stark naked, in 前線 of a mirror in the の近くにing scene of Good Luck to You, Leo Grande, a woman at peace with herself and her 'untreated 団体／死体'.

Isabella Rossellini appeared - at the age of 71 and without touching up her wrinkles - on the October 2023 cover of Italian Vogue.

Supermodel Paulina Porizkova has proudly 提起する／ポーズをとるd 構成-解放する／自由な, 辞退するing, at 58, to get Botox or filler

Supermodel Paulina Porizkova has proudly 提起する／ポーズをとるd 構成-解放する／自由な, 辞退するing, at 58, to get Botox or filler.

And Harrison Ford has 反映するd: 'I just don't think of age and time in 尊敬（する）・点 of years.?

'I just have too much experience of people in their 70s who are vigorous and useful and people that are 35 that are in [lousy] physical 形態／調整 and can't think straight. I don't think age has that much to do with it.'

熟考する／考慮するs show that the 主要な factor behind a 広大な／多数の／重要な sex lif e is 信用／信任 - and once you stop worrying about your lumps and bumps, you can 焦点（を合わせる） on enjoying yourself.??

Emma Thompson 明らかにするd all in the 2022 movie, Good Luck To You Leo Grande, and showed audiences how older women can have healthy, 実行するd sex lives?

Harrison Ford says he no longer thinks about age ーに関して／ーの点でs of years.?'I just have too much experience of people in their 70s who are vigorous and useful and people that are 35 that are in [lousy] physical 形態／調整 and can't think straight.'

YOU KNOW 世界保健機構 TO COUNT ON?

The Harvard 熟考する／考慮する of Adult 開発 followed 724 関係者s over the course of 85 years in the longest-running 研究 on human happiness in the world.

研究員s 手配中の，お尋ね者 to see if they could 予報する which of their 支配するs would grow into healthy, happy octogenarians. And when they gathered everything they knew about them at age 50, 'it wasn't their midlife cholesterol levels or 団体／死体 集まり indices that 予報するd how they were going to grow old,' says 半導体素子, 'it was how 満足させるd they were in their 関係s.

'The people who were the most 満足させるd in their 関係s at age 50 were the healthiest at age 80.'

He 追加するs: 'I often wonder about my five friends who didn't realize that 早期に midlife, like adolescence, is just a 橋（渡しをする） over troubled waters. Yes, your midlife unraveling can be tricky, and it 要求するs a healthy dose of support and love from those around you. But it also 申し込む／申し出s you the first glimpses of a life いっそう少なく ordinary.'

YOU GIVE NO 'F**KS'

The good news, says 半導体素子, is that there comes a time in our lives when we stop counting Instag 押し通す 'likes' and searching for the perfect filter for our photos.

'As we age, most of us 簡単に don't care what other people think in the same way we did before. We realize that 'giving a f***' is not only distracting, it drains our energy and our souls.

'In midlife, we begin to 埋め立てる that energy for more important 努力するs.'

Jane Fonda has 示唆するd that, instead of seeing 高齢化 ーに関して／ーの点でs of a slow 拒絶する／低下する, we should look at it as a staircase, bringing us into 知恵, wholeness, and authenticity

?YOU HAVE A BANK OF KNOWLEDGE?

Jane Fonda once 示唆するd that, instead of seeing 高齢化 ーに関して／ーの点でs of a slow 拒絶する／低下する, we should look at it as a 'staircase, symbolizing the 上向き ascension of the human spirit, bringing us into 知恵, wholeness, and authenticity.'

Yes, as we age, our ability to 過程 new （警察などへの）密告，告訴（状）, to learn and solve problems - what's known as fluid 知能 - 拒絶する／低下するs.

However, our ability to think holistically - what's known as crystallized 知能 - 現実に 改善するs with age… and doesn't 頂点（に達する） until the age of 70.

'Moreover,' says 半導体素子, ' the longer we've been on the 惑星, the more knowledge and experience we've 蓄積するd, and the more patterns we've seen.'

These are the raw 構成要素s for 知恵 that should be 高く評価する／（相場などが）上がるd.

YOU KNOW WHERE YOUR STORY IS GOING?

Conley compares the 旅行 of life to the 行為／法令／行動する of reading a novel. When you're 25, you still don't know where the story is going. But by the time you're 50, some 主題s are starting to develop - even though there may be some 陰謀（を企てる） 新たな展開s to come.

'In midlife, you can start becoming the enlightened 証言，証人／目撃する to and screenwriter of this story. When we infuse our storytelling with our self-認識／意識性, who knows what 肉親，親類d of masterpiece we might curate?'

WE HAVE LOWER EXPECTATIONS?

We are finally able to let go of the unrealistic aspirations of 青年 in 中央の-life - that we'd be married to a lingerie model, or a millionaire by the time we were 30.

研究 shows that younger people tend to 過大評価する how happy they'll be in five years' time, while older people underestimate their 未来 satisfaction.

So, by マナ ging our 期待s and letting go of an 身元 we once thought was our birth 権利, we can make room for the next half of your life.

'For some, it's coming 直面する-to-直面する with the fact that they've been living someone else's idea of their life, all while David Byrne's 発言する／表明する （犯罪の）一味s in their 長，率いる: 'And you may ask yourself, 井戸／弁護士席, how did I get here?' It's remarkable how light and 解放する／自由な one feels when you let go of all this baggage.'

WE STEP OFF THE TREADMILL??

'When we perceive time horizons as shorter and more 限られた／立憲的な, we stop sprinting on the treadmill toward some distant 未来 目的地 and 許す ourselves to stand still and 高く評価する／（相場などが）上がる where we are in the 現在の,' says 半導体素子.

The treadmill, he 追加するs, is alluring - but it's also deceiving because it keeps you running in palace, even if you're in a 十分な-on sprint, chasing 'success'.

'Around midlife, you realize that the landscape doesn't change around you. You may have the illusion you're winning the race, but you're surrounded by four 塀で囲むs and sweaty 団体／死体s in a gym or 会議／協議会 room.

'It's time to get off the treadmill, go outside and enjoy the sun, and start imagining how you might curate your life if you had a little more spaciousness.'

The cliche of the male midlife 危機 is 井戸／弁護士席-worn - with tales of sports cars and 事件／事情／状勢s with younger women

Kevin Spacey won the Best Actor Oscar for his 役割 as a man who had a 中央の-life 危機 and fell in love with his daughter's friend in American Beauty

WITH FEWER DEMANDS, LIFE SLOWS DOWN?

半導体素子 believes that once we reach midlife, with より小数の 需要・要求するs on our time from now-grown children and perhaps having moved from the city to a quieter life out of town, we have more ba ndwidth to learn something new.

'研究員s explain that we 計器 time by memorable events,' he says. 'The more such events, the slower time seems to pass. But because we often have より小数の new things to remember as we age, life seems to 加速する. When the passage of time is no longer 手段d by 'firsts' (first kiss, first day of school, first family vacation), the weeks begin to run together, stitched by 頻発する and unmemorable daily 仕事s.

'Introducing novelty into your life will make new memories stand out,' he says.

That is echoed at the end of the Oscar-winning film American Beauty - itself an essay on the male midlife 危機 - when Kevin Spacey's character says: 'It is a 広大な／多数の／重要な thing when you still have the ability to surprise yourself. Makes you wonder what else you can do that you've forgotten about.'

YOU'LL EMBRACE YOUR 'SOUL'?

Many in midlife can feel lost or stuck. They may feel as though they're supporting everyone else's needs but have lost 跡をつける of their own. However, this 行う／開催する／段階 in life 産む／飼育するs the ability to 反映する and think 深く，強烈に about your wants and needs.?

半導体素子 says: 'This is why, in midlife, many of us turn inward: we realize that our soul needs space, 孤独, and 静かな. Or perhaps it's that WE need space, 孤独 and 静かな to reconnect with our soul.'

EVERYTHING MAKES SENSE...WHICH MAKES IT MORE INTERESTING?

半導体素子 推論する／理由s: 'Most sports matches get more 利益／興味ing in their second half, and theatergoers sit on the 辛勝する／優位 of their seat during the last 行為／法令／行動する of a play, when everything finally starts to make sense.

'Could it be that life, too, gets more 利益／興味ing as one approaches its end?'

Learning to Love Midlife: 12 推論する／理由s Why Life Gets Better with Age by 半導体素子 Conley is published by Little, Brown 誘発する, January 16