I lost everything I owned in a 貯蔵 部隊 解雇する／砲火／射撃 where I 蓄える／店d my 所有／入手s after a break-up - I grieved even though no one had died

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A woman who lost all her worldly 所有／入手s after a 解雇する／砲火／射撃 tore through a self-貯蔵 部隊 has 明らかにする／漏らすd what it was like to lose everything she owned.??

Helen Chandler-Wilde, 29, 最初 thought it was a 'joke' when she heard of the 破滅的な 炎 at the Shurgard self-貯蔵 部隊s in Croydon on New Year's Eve in 2018.?

The 新聞記者／雑誌記者 and writer, then in her 中央の 20s, had moved 支援する in with her parents after a bad break-up and had packed all of her 所有／入手s - 'furniture, sentimental stuff, 調書をとる／予約するs' - into the 貯蔵 部隊.?

Having suddenly lost everything, Helen soon realised which 所有／入手s in life are 現実に most important and which we can go without.?

She has now written a 調書をとる／予約する 肩書を与えるd Lost & 設立する, where she 文書s the painful 過程 of building up her life again from scratch.?

Helen Chandler-Wilde lost all her po ssessions after a 解雇する／砲火／射撃 tore through a 貯蔵 部隊 on New Year's Eve, 2018

The New Year's Eve 解雇する／砲火／射撃 at the Shurgard self-貯蔵 部隊 in Purley Way, Croydon tore through 1,198 rented 部隊s and was 取り組むd by around 120 firefighters

In the 調書をとる／予約する, Helen speaks to psychologists about the 関係 between ourselves and our things, 含むing the 'dopamine 急ぐ' that comes with buying new things and the human 傾向 to become 大（公）使館員d to our 反対するs.?

'No one had died but it almost felt like I was grieving', Helen 令状s about the 深い loss she felt after the 解雇する／砲火／射撃, 追加するing: 'I was a snail without my 爆撃する'.??

And speaking to FEMAIL, Helen said: 'I think it made me much more aware that you can't rely on like physical things to make you happy.?

'When you start from scratch, I think you do have this little 適切な時期 to really think about what is it that I want.?

'I think it's 最高の ありふれた in the way our culture is 始める，決める up for people to collect things and buy lots of things and do 負担s of shopping - 特に every time you open social マスコミ.'

Helen opens the prologue to her 調書をとる／予約する by asking: 'If you could save just one thing from a 解雇する／砲火／射撃, what would it be? I wish I had been 申し込む／申し出d the choice.'??

The New Year's Eve 解雇する／砲火／射撃 at the Shurgard self-貯蔵 部隊 in Purley Way, Croydon tore through 1,198 rented 部隊s and was 取り組むd by around 120 firefighters.?

The building was destroyed after 存在 みなすd too 危険な - as hundreds of people lost their 所持品 - and with them, many of their memories.??

The 貯蔵 部隊 before the 解雇する／砲火／射撃 - when Helen had moved around a ４半期/4分の1 of her things in

Helen has now written a 調書をとる／予約する 肩書を与えるd Lost & 設立する, where she 文書s the painful 過程 of building up her life again from scratch

Helen's first move was to start to 取って代わる the 必須のs, such as saucepans, and she was given a bed by a friend of a friend.?

Soon, she began to 行方不明になる the little things, 含むing a box of hairbands when she needed to go for a run, and a coffee （米）棚上げする／（英）提議する with a red ワイン stain - a fond memory from a night with friends.?

A 特に sore 位置／汚点／見つけ出す was losing over 1,000 調書をとる／予約するs to the 炎上s, and 存在 left with a bookshelf, gifted from her parents, with nothing to fill it.?

'It is weird to have nothing that sentimental or nice,' Helen said.?

Losing physical 反対するs also （機の）カム with the loss of memories and emotions tied to the 反対するs.?

Helen continued: 'I do think there's still a lot of sadness there because there were items that were so unique, like from a 明確な／細部 country which you're never gonna go to again.?

'I had a rug that （機の）カム from Kosovo, and 明白に you're not going to go 支援する to get one. That stuff was so nice and beautiful. In my mind I can walk around my old house in my 長，率いる and see everything as it was even though that was years ago now.

'I had all these letters that my uncle had written me over the years when I was a child. It was 甘い little poems and jokes and stuff, but he's died now. Sentimental stuff like photos are just irreplaceable because it makes you remember the person.'

An 結局の 保険 payout of around £2,000 covered いっそう少なく than a third of Helen's 所有／入手s.?

The 解雇する／砲火／射撃 at the 部隊 destroyed the 所持品 of hundreds of people, taking away their memories as it did so

Pictured: The 炎 at the self-貯蔵 倉庫／問屋, which was later destroyed 予定 to the 損失

直面するd with yet another blow, she realised there was a small advantage to her 荒涼とした 状況／情勢.

'I had a rare chance to start from scratch,' she 令状s in the 調書をとる／予約する, and these moments of reflection 許すd her to consider what she truly needed.?

Helen now lives in south London with one flatmate - and a collection of meaningful and good-質 things.??

She said: 'I have a small 量 of stuff that I really love and I've given lots of other stuff away.?

'I think it's much better to get something the secondhand and a bit quirky and it feels so unique, rather than something generic that like everyone has.'

She now 焦点（を合わせる）s on 購入（する）ing high 質 items, usually second-手渡す, from charity shops, Vinted or eBay, that will last a long time, and has also 削減（する） 負かす／撃墜する the 量 of stuff she owns かなり.?

Lost & 設立する is 利用できる to buy now

Now her most prized 所有／入手s 含む a small TV - one of the first things she re-bought after the 解雇する／砲火／射撃 - a Victorian 味方する 閣僚 from an antiques shop, and a floral sofa from IKEA.??

In October 2022, she even did a 'no buy month', only 購入（する）ing 必須のs like food - and has kept these habits ever since.?

'I think it showed me that you can just get by with living with 必須のs for a really long 量 of time. It can be more relaxing to do that and just so much いっそう少なく 強調する／ストレス,' she explained.?

'Nothing is 現実に truly 永久の and I think that's something I learned, you can look after an antique and you can call it like a museum level of 保護 and it will still be decaying all the time.'

どこかよそで in Lost & 設立する, Helen 調査するs why people are drawn to collecting things in the first place - from 陳列する，発揮するing status, to the thrill of collecting new items - and the 調書をとる／予約する 含む／封じ込めるs insights from several psychologists.?

Lost & 設立する gives seven 重要な lessons learned from losing everything, 誘発するing the realisation that 'she was not what she owned'.?

Helen said 令状ing it was like a '最高の long therapy 開会／開廷／会期', 明らかにする／漏らすing: 'It helped me to get a lot of clarity and understand why I was so upset and why our minds ar e wired to get 大（公）使館員d to our 所有／入手s.'

Lost & 設立する by Helen Chandler-Wilde is out now. Published by Octopus Publishing Group, RRP £20.??