Women who gave birth in their 40s 明らかにする／漏らす they were 'more 確信して' and 'financially 安全な・保証する' as mothers after Rachel 重荷（を負わせる） 誘発するd a 審議 about having a fourth child at 41

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The age at which women decide they want to have children can be a 極度の慎重さを要する topic - and British 放送者?Rachel 重荷（を負わせる） has 原因（となる）d やめる a 動かす with her 最近の comments on the 支配する.?

The BBC?5 Live and BBC Breakfast?presenter said that her?決定／判定勝ち（する） to have a baby at the age of 41 was a 'really selfish thing to do',?although she has since 示唆するd that what she said had been taken out of 状況.

But speaking to FEMAIL, other 'older mothers' have opened up about feeling 'far more relaxed' as a 40+ parent - and 主張するd that age doesn't 'need to come into it' if the children are 'loved, happy and healthy'.

Linzi Meaden, 49, a 外傷／ショック therapist at The Meaden Clinic in Kent, was 42 when she got 妊娠している with twins and questions why no one ever について言及するs her 56-year-old husband's age.

どこかよそで, Nicola?Rowley, 50, 創立者 of UK-based?NJRPR Communications 機関, had her son?James when she was 40 in 2014 after trying for three years beforehand - and said 'it would have been selfish not to have had him'.

Within 36 hours of 存在 診断するd with pre-eclampsia in February 2016, Rachel 重荷（を負わせる） gave birth to baby Henry (pictured) at just 31 weeks into the pregnancy

放送者 Ms 重荷（を負わせる）, now 49,?already had three children when she became 妊娠している with her fourth, after discussing the idea at length with her husband, fellow 新聞記者／雑誌記者 Luke Mendham.

Speaking to the 中央の Point podcast, she 明らかにする／漏らすd: 'I had three very sort of straightforward pregnancies and I made the terribly arrogant 仮定／引き受けること I'd have a fourth baby and it would be 罰金 and straightforward.

'And I think いつかs when I 反映する on it, I think it was a really selfish thing to do. I （機の）カム from a big family ? I really 手配中の，お尋ね者 a big family. I had that moment where Luke and I sat around a （米）棚上げする／（英）提議する when the third child had gone to school and thought, "Oh, this is so boring".'

'Then I was 40 or 41 and I did get 妊娠している, and 肉親，親類d of said, "It will be 罰金, you will barely even notice it".'

But it 現れるd when she went for a hospital check-up that Ms 重荷（を負わせる） had 'all the 調印するs of pre-eclampsia' ? a 条件 that 原因（となる）s high 血 圧力 during pregnancy that can be serious if left untreated.

Within 36 hours of 存在 診断するd with the 条件 in February 2016, Ms 重荷（を負わせる） gave birth to baby Henry at just 31 weeks into the pregnancy. Thankfully, Henry 'was 効果的に a healthy baby ? he was tiny, he was 3lb, but he was healthy'.

反応するing to an ITV snippet covering the story on This Morning, Rachel took to X to 主張する: 'Friends… this is not what I said, but hey 売春婦. Probs best to listen to the whole pod for 状況.'?

The number of women having babies over 40 has been 増加するing in 最近の years ? 追いつくing the number of women under the age of 20 for the first time in 2015, によれば the Office for 国家の 統計（学）.?

Pregnancies for over-40s carry a higher 危険 of 複雑化s such as pre-eclampsia, 同様に as hypertension and 糖尿病.?

But for these women, they wouldn't change getting 妊娠している when they were 老年の 40 and over...?

S同盟（する） Brockway, 59

Sally (pictured with her daughter Sarah), from Kingston, Surrey, who 作品 as a copywriter and PR, said one of the best 決定／判定勝ち（する）s she ever made was to have a baby at 41 - even though her husband didn’t want any more children

Sally, from Kingston, Surrey, who 作品 as a copywriter and PR, said one of the best 決定／判定勝ち（する）s she ever made was to have a baby at 41 - even though her husband didn’t want any more children.

'I told my husband I only had a 5 per cent chance of conceiving, so we dispensed with contraception and a month later, I was 妊娠している with our daughter Sarah. Thankfully, he was delighted when she arrived, a happy, healthy and beautiful baby.

'Rachel 重荷（を負わせる） said that 落ちるing 妊娠している at 41 was a "really selfish thing to do" because she went on to have a difficult pregnancy. I’m sorry she had such a 堅い experience, but perhaps it was just the luck of the draw? Some pregnancies are harder than others whatever your age.

'My third pregnancy with Sarah, 17, was by far the easiest. I 伸び（る）d five 石／投石する and had terrible pelvic 苦痛s with child one, I was horribly sick with child two, but third time around, I sailed through the pregnancy and had Sarah at home in just under three hours.

'労働 one was eight hours and then 12 the second time around. Having Sarah was a 微風, so much so, she was very nearly born in the 洗面所. I went for a 少しの and to my surprise, she literally fell ou t and a quick-witted midwife managed to dive in and catch her.

'Of course, there were doomsayers. People wondered why on earth I was having a third child in my 40s when I already had a boy and a girl. I explained that I grew up the eldest of three and that felt like a proper family to me.

'The sleepless nights were 堅い, but not because of my age ? they’re 堅い for anyone. And besides, 40 really isn’t old and I can say that with 信用／信任 now I’m 59.'

Lesley Thomas, 55

Lesley, who lives 近づく Salisbury in Wiltshire, with her husband Steve and two teenage sons, had her first child at 37 and her second at 40. She said she 'would never consider this selfish'

Lesley, who lives 近づく Salisbury in Wiltshire, with her husband Steve and two teenage sons, had her first child at 37 and her second at 40. She said she 'would never consider this selfish'.

'I didn’t 会合，会う my now husband until I was 35 and this was just the way things happened ーに関して／ーの点でs of having our family.?

'At 40, I was fit, 安全な・保証する in my career and financially, 同様に as experienced enough at life, to 供給する my boys with everything they needed in me as their mum. I am older now than some of their friends parents, whilst 存在 younger than others.

'存在 わずかに older having my children, I had also developed more self 信用／信任 in myself and my abilities as a parent, which has served me 井戸／弁護士席.?

'There is no 権利 age to have a child, the 権利 time is when it happens, as big changes manifest in your life 関わりなく how old you are.?

'I was fortunate I had 絶対 no problems in getting 妊娠している, and was really excited, as was my husband on both occasions I became 妊娠している.

'Do I feel I have いっそう少なく energy than younger mums, how would I know? I became a mum at 37 and again at 40, and whilst the 早期に months were exhausting both times around, I think they are at any age of having children. I would never compare myself to other mums, no 事柄 how old, as personal circumstances are just that.

'But I had the 利益 of 存在 確信して enough to ask questions when I didn’t know the answer.?

'When we have children, is personal to everyone, and for me, having 地雷 at the age I did was perfect and I would not change it. And if I were to ask my boys the same question, I know they would say the same thing.'

Lesley is the 創立者 of The Money 信用／信任 学院, supporting children with 財政上の Literacy and a cre ating a 確信して 関係 with money.

Linzi Meaden, 49?

Linzi was 42 when she got 妊娠している with twins and said she loves 存在 an 'older mother'?

Linzi was 42 when she got 妊娠している with twins and said she loves 存在 an 'older mother'.

'The BBC’s Rachel 重荷（を負わせる） says she was “really selfish” to have a baby at 41 and that’s her choice to have that belief based on her own experience.?

'She wasn’t to know that she would develop pre-eclampsia and it’s not a 条件 that only 影響s "older mothers".?

'Many of my friends in their 30s developed this during pregnancy. I was 42 when I got 妊娠している with twins; I’ll be 50 in a couple of weeks and the twins are now seven.?

'I was peri-menopausal at the time with the 追加するd 特別手当 of having Crohn’s 病気 and osteopenia. I developed gestational 糖尿病 during pregnancy but other than this, I went 十分な 称する，呼ぶ／期間／用語 with a twin pregnancy to 37 weeks and all was 井戸／弁護士席.?

'I followed my maternal instincts and just knew that I was meant to be a mother 関わりなく my age. I wasn’t ready for children in my 20s and 30s and that’s okay. I love 存在 an ‘older mum’ and I certainly don’t think I’m selfish at all.?

'If others wish to 裁判官 and believe 存在 an older parent is selfish, then that’s their 商売／仕事, not 地雷. As long as my children are loved, happy and healthy, why does age come into it??My husband is 56 but no one ever について言及するs his age!'

Nicola?Rowley, 50

Nicola had her son James when she was 40 in 2014 after trying for three years beforehand - and said 'it would have been selfish not to have had him'

'When James （機の）カム along, I had nothing but love for him and he's remained an only child,' said Nicola (pictured と一緒に her son James)

Nicola had her son James when she was 40 in 2014 after trying for three years beforehand - and said 'it would have been selfish not to have had him'.?

'When James （機の）カム along, I had nothing but love for him and he's remained an only child.

'ーに関して／ーの点でs of what Rachel 重荷（を負わせる） is 説 about 存在 selfish having a child later in life - all I can say is that my son James has been and continues to be one of the most loved children I know.?

'It would have been selfish not to have had him - as I had so much love to give.?

'Having him when I did has enabled me to be there for him in ways I don't think would have been possible さもなければ.?

'Running my own successful PR Consultancy and 機関 means I can be the mum at the school gates for 減少（する） offs and 選ぶ ups and never 行方不明になる a play, event or swimming 祝祭 at the same time because I get to choose my hours and how I work for my （弁護士の）依頼人s.?

'I definitely needed James to come along to make me have the wake up call that led me to redesign my life on my own 条件 to make everything work and start 達成するing things like 令状ing children's 調書をとる／予約するs that I'd 以前 put on 持つ／拘留する.'

Becky Stevens, 46

Becky Stevens was 42 when 妊娠している with her sixth child and 主張するd she 設立する it '権力を与えるing'?

Becky was 42 when 妊娠している wi th her sixth child and 主張するd she 設立する it '権力を与えるing'.

'Having my two babies in my forties was far more 権力を与えるing than my pregnancies in my thirties.?

'Although you are surrounded by scepticism and worry warts mostly from Dr Google, that can send you into a frenzy about 存在 妊娠している in your forties, I 設立する so many 肯定的な websites / fertility coaches / acupuncturists and my fertility homeopath.

'They were so supportive and gave me the knowledge to know what to look out for if I felt dizzy/out of breath/ not my usual self so I was more tuned into my 団体／死体 and 確信して in myself and my pregnancy.?

'I was fitter in my forties after running after my five other kids and also more in tune when I had to stop and not overdo it!?

'I needed to 保存する my energy for the afternoon 支援する to school 急ぐ hour when often I would feel my most tired 特に later into my pregnancy.

'More women are getting 妊娠している later in age and that really shouldn’t be frowned upon and we shouldn’t be fed 恐れる we just need to adapt and listen/look out for 調印するs so we don't run into bumps along the way with your bump.'?

Karen Furr, 51?

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Karen, 51, from Buckinghamshire, had her daughter Mia at 44, and said that she is 'far more relaxed as an older and more experienced mum'

Karen, 51, from?Buckinghamshire, had her daughter Mia at 44, and said that she is 'far more relaxed as an older and more experienced mum'.

'I do not think it’s selfish to have a baby later in life as it’s a 全く individual and personal choice. Mia was a 抱擁する surprise because I believed I was menopausal! So, my husband and I have always felt very blessed to have her.

'It was a very straight 今後 pregnancy and I am not the oldest parent in the playground. My midwife told me that the oldest mum she had 補助装置d with 労働 was 52!

'Mia is now six and I am 51 tomorrow. Her brothers are 23, 21 and 18 and we all adore her.?

'I can only 中和する／阻止する (the presenter's thoughts) that for us, it’s been a wonderful experience and Mia is a very happy girl.'

Julie Thompson Dredge

Julie, who gave birth to her son Rufus when she was 40, has 認める that she has 'mixed opinions' on getting 妊娠している after 40. Pictured, the mother and her son when he was four months old

Julie, who gave birth to her son Rufus when she was 40, has 認める that she has 'mixed opinions' on getting 妊娠している after 40.?

'On the one 手渡す you're more financially stable and 円熟した (probably!),' she said. 'And on the other 手渡す, I think it can be very tiring as you're likely to be busy in a 職業 still - at least I am.

'And かもしれない caring for other 親族s. But also, you are closer to peri-menopausal age, which I didn't take into account really, and this means you might soon be 取引，協定ing with difficult moods, sleeplessness of your own and other difficult symptoms.

'So I'd say in an ideal world, having them younger is best. But we don't all have the 高級な of having kids 正確に／まさに when we want them do we, and having my son has brought me so much joy that I would recommend anyone get 妊娠している in their 40s, even if it's hard!

'I think it's harmful to 示唆する [it's self ish]. Fertility 問題／発行するs are an 問題／発行する for やめる a lot of women, and there's also rising costs to consider meaning so many women are hesitant about having babies and so that's one of the 推論する／理由s they're 延期するing it until their 40s.'

Jayne Hook, 47

Stay-at-home mother Jayne, of Thatcham in Berkshire, was 40 when she had her son Oliver, and 38 when she had her other son William

Jayne first got 妊娠している in 2004, a year after marrying her husband, Steven (pictured together), a sales director. But she had no idea of the heartbreaking 10-year fight that lay ahead; she 耐えるd seven miscarriages, a 悲劇の stillbirth and IVF 失敗

Stay-at-home mother Jayne, of Thatcham in Berkshire, was 40 when she had her son Oliver, and 38 when she had her other son William.

Jayne first got 妊娠している in 2004, a year after marrying her husband, Steven, a sales director.?But she had no idea of the heartbreaking 10-year fight that lay ahead; she?耐えるd seven miscarriages, a 悲劇の stillbirth and IVF 失敗.

Finally, the couple conceived 首尾よく through IVF, and are now proud parents to two boys.?

She told FEMAIL: 'After the 旅行 we had I have no 疑問 there maybe would have been some people that felt - once we were successful with our child, William, and then we decided we 手配中の，お尋ね者 to have another child, I didn't want my child to be an only child - there may have been some people that thought, 井戸／弁護士席, you've gone through enough already you've got one child and maybe you should be happy with what you've got.

'I don't think you can put yourself in anybody else's shoes. What is 権利 for one person isn't 権利 for everybody.

'I think life has 危険s in everything you do. I think if you know that you can love a child and give a child a stable home. Your age shouldn't be something that 持つ／拘留するs you 支援する. I think loving a child and giving them a 安全な 環境 is far more important than anything else.'

Rochelle Anthony, 37

走者 up on The 見習い工 last year, and owner of TheDollsHouse 集団の／共同の, Rochelle Anthony, is a mother of two, who had her children in her 30s

But her father (pictured next to Rochelle when she was a baby) had her when he was 39 years old

走者 up on The 見習い工 last year, and owner of TheDollsHouse 集団の／共同の, Rochelle Anthony, is a mother of two, who had?her children in her 30s. But her father had her when he was 39 years old.?

'I don’t think it’s selfish at all to have a baby at 40! My dad was almost 40 when he had me, he was wiser, more 患者, had 実行するd a career, and done everything him and my mum 手配中の，お尋ね者 to.?

'They had travelled the world, and didn’t feel they were 行方不明の out on anything or each other. It's a crazy juggle 存在 a mother, and when you are driven it’s hard to work out what needs to come first.?

'But later in your life, at 40, you have lived a lot of life. Women nowadays are 購入（する）ing homes later, hitting goals in life later. So to then have a baby later, it’s a 調印する of the times.?

'There’s no 権利 or wrong age to have a baby, 複雑化s can happen at any age, infertility can also happen at any age. There is so much 圧力 for women to have families before they feel ready. We need to stop putting pressur e on women to 適合する before they feel ready.

'My dad was 現在の, still able to 勝利，勝つ first place in the fathers running race at school sports days. He said it made him a more 患者 man.?

'He’s now retired and feels really 現在の for his grandchildren. Which if he had me younger, he would probably still be working, and have struggled to find the time between 会合s to be at their Christmas nativity.?

'Everyone’s 旅行 is unique and we should support mothers no 事柄 what age they choose to give birth.'