You've been eating in restaurants all wrong! Etiquette guru 明らかにする／漏らすs dining out do's and don'ts, from how to wipe your mouth like 王族 to the clever trick for letting friends know you want to 分裂（する） the 法案 (without 説 a word)

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Nowhere exposes a 欠如（する） of etiquette knowledge やめる like a restaurant.

After all, there are so many 適切な時期s to slip-up - at the 入り口, while sitting 負かす／撃墜する, while eating and when 召喚するing waiting staff.

It's a minefield even for the 井戸／弁護士席-mannered の中で us.

Luckily, the do's and don'ts for restaurant behaviour is a topic that etiquette guru Sara Jane 売春婦 covers in her fascinating new 調書をとる／予約する, Mind Your Manners.

Read on for some of the 最高潮の場面s, from knowing whose 職業 it is to go in first to whether the host or guest sits with their 支援する to the room.

MAKING AN ENTRANCE

The do's and don'ts for restaurant behaviour is a topic that etiquette guru Sara Jane 売春婦 (above) covers in her f ascinating new 調書をとる／予約する, Mind Your Manners

Sara says: 'Whoever made the 保留（地）／予約 goes first because they are the host.?

'The guest always gets the best seat, which can be a 見解（をとる） of the room or of a beautiful sunset or the ocean.?

'The worst 見解（をとる） is of a 塀で囲む, so the host should take that.?

'If you're the host, remember that people want to be told what to do, so don't say "oh, sit anywhere". Unless there is a 抱擁する group and that makes sense.'

SETTLING IN AND ORDERING

Sara, who is?host of Netflix series Mind Your Manners, says: 'Put your napkin on your （競技場の）トラック一周 when your host does. If it's been a minute and they 港／避難所't, you can go ahead and do it anyway.'

And what about getting the ordering under way?

Sara 収容する／認めるs to getting annoyed if there's too much talking and not enough perusing of the dishes on 申し込む／申し出.

But she has a 解答.

Sara says: 'Say, "So I've heard that the roast chicken here is 簡単に divine," while 開始 the menu - it's so seamless your dining partner won't even notice.'

CUTLERY?

Cutlery should never touch the （米）棚上げする／（英）提議する again once you 選ぶ it up, says Sara

Sara's Mind Your Manners: An Insider's Guide to Social Fluency (Bluebird ) is 利用できる from アマゾン

Sara has a golden 支配する for cutlery - 'once you 選ぶ up your cutlery, it can never touch the （米）棚上げする／（英）提議する again'.

And that 含むs the 扱うs - 'so don't lean your knife blade on the plate while the 扱う 残り／休憩（する）s on the （米）棚上げする／（英）提議する'.

Any other cutlery no-nos?

A few, says Sara - 'don't 持つ／拘留する your fork like a shovel, don't 持つ／拘留する your knife like a pen and don't lick your knife'.?

THE BREAD BASKET

Always 申し込む／申し出 bread to others first, 公式文書，認めるs Sara.

THE MAIN EVENT

So your meal has arrived. No w what?

For starters, says Sara, 'don't 削減（する） all your food into bite-sized pieces' and don't, in a posh restaurant, '回転／交替 your plate while trying to 接近 a 確かな food'.

HOW TO LEAVE TO GO TO THE TOILET

To begin with, never say you're going to the 洗面所.

Sara says: 'When you want to leave the （米）棚上げする／（英）提議する for a restroom break it's elegant to say "I'm going to wash my 手渡すs" or "excuse me for a moment".'

WHAT IF YOUR DISH HAS NOT COME OUT WITH EVERYONE ELSE'S?

Sara says: 'If your dish has not come out at the same time as everyone else's, you should tell everyone to please start eating while their food is hot.'

HOW TO CALL THE SERVER

Sara says: 'I recommend 持つ／拘留するing up your 手渡す at ear level to catch their attention and then trying to make 注目する，もくろむ 接触する.'

THE BILL

'Ask for the 法案 if you're the host,' says Sara, 'so that the server knows to give it 直接／まっすぐに to you. That spares the 必然的な ぎこちない 口論する人ing if you ーするつもりである to 支払う／賃金 for it yourself.

'If you 推定する／予想する others to 分裂（する） it with you, pause a moment. Your guests should 申し込む／申し出 敏速に to 与える／捧げる their fair 株. If you're a guest, don't hesitate to 申し込む／申し出 when this moment arrives.'?

Sara's Mind Your Manners: An Insider's Guide to Social Fluency (Bluebird) is 利用できる from アマゾン. For more from Sara visit her Instagram profile.?