Is sleep the new sex? Yes! Yes! Yezzzzzz

By Jackie Clune for MailOnline

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Here's a modern parlour game to play with friends at a dinner party/一連の会議、交渉／完成する the water cooler/at the school gates.

Two words. Choose one. Sex or sleep?

The answers, によれば a 最近の 調査する, will 明らかにする／漏らす that around 80 per cent of Britons, men 含むd, would choose a good night's sleep over a night of passion.

You may not get honest answers if you ask the question 直接／まっすぐに - for men it's still a 事柄 of male pride to at least pretend to be a stud, and these days women are 推定する／予想するd not only to be the perfect wife, mother and career woman but also a naughty nymph at bedtime.

Sleep is the new sex: Many of us would prefer a good night's rest to a night of passion

Sleep is the new sex: Many of us would prefer a good night's 残り／休憩（する） to a night of passion

The truth is much いっそう少なく racy. We're all knackered. Too knackered to be bothered with a fumble when the lights go out.

It's not that we don't want it - it's just that too often when we 落ちる into bed at the end of a long day either 減刑する／通勤するing to the office, 格闘するing kids in and out of school uniform, cooking, shopping or worrying about 支払う／賃金ing the 法案s, sex just seems like another thing on the long 名簿（に載せる）／表（にあげる） of Things To Do: Put the 貯蔵所s out, have fantastic sex.

For most people (and I'm guessing most busy women), sex is the first thing to 落ちる off the 底（に届く） of that 名簿（に載せる）／表（にあげる）, whether they are parents or not. We've become so exhausted and 強調する／ストレスd that foreplay is not cost-効果的な any more.

Nowadays it's all: 'I have a 会合 at three, dinner at eight and a 15-minute window for intercourse at 10.30.' If you're lucky.

I'm reminded of an excellent Victoria 支持を得ようと努めるd gag. 'Next door had sex again last night. I mean, I like a joke, but that's twice this month!'

Twice? In a month? That now seems like やめる an 業績／成就 for many couples. If the previous 世代 of women were repressed, at least they weren't also 推定する／予想するd to be superwoman in every other area of life, and if the men were sexually Neanderthal, at least they weren't trying to be alpha male and caring dad.

The juggling 行為／法令／行動する has just become too exhausting for all of us. And forget talking dirty.

For a lot of women it's not so much 'Come here, big boy' as 'Oh, go on then.' Or to 引用する the 伝統的な come-on - 'を締める yourself, Bridget!'

It's ironic that in a culture where sex is a major 最大の関心事 - it's used to sell everything from cars to 洗面所 cleaner - the thing that people really crave is not hours of lust but a good night's kip.

Sleep is the new sex. より小数の orgasms, more snorgasms. Things are 特に difficult for couples with young children. Listening out for the patter of tiny feet on the 上陸 is not 役立つ to romance.

Nor are the night time cries of 'Muuuummmmy!' helpful to the 女性（の） libido. It would be 平易な to slip into a more fraternal 関係 with one's loved one, but much is lost by 受託するing a 欠如（する） of sex in a 関係.

Sex is the glue that 貯蔵所d a couple, and not having it has lead to much unsticking.

? Sex is just like jogging - you don't always fancy the idea of it, but once you start you wonder why you don't do it more often.

欠如（する） of sex is grounds for 離婚, and there is always the 恐れる that if you don't have sex with your husband, then somebody else will. I once asked my husband one of those questions that make men squirm.

'Do you love me?' 'Yes.' 'Why?' 'Erm, er, because we get on 井戸／弁護士席, and, er, we make a good team 一連の会議、交渉／完成する the house, and erm...' 'Blimey, you make us sound like really 両立できる flatmates!' '井戸／弁護士席 . . .' he teased. It was time to up the 性の 賭け金.

The same week I happened upon an advice column by Mariella Frostrup, that 井戸／弁護士席 known sex 爆弾 and all-一連の会議、交渉／完成する good egg. In it, a woman was complai ning about her 欠如（する） of sex 運動 in an さもなければ happy marriage.

Mariella advised the Nike approach to 性の relations - Just Do It.

Sex is just like jogging - you don't always fancy the idea of it, but once you start you wonder why you don't do it more often.

That very night I took her advice, even though our daughter was only 11 months old and teething. I fell 妊娠している. With triplets

. Thanks, Mariella. Last week I saw her in a John 吊りくさび children's shoe department. I was laden 負かす／撃墜する with four pairs of tiny but massively expensive boots. It took all the strength I had not to fling them all at her.

Beware advice columns - you may 結局最後にはーなる with more than you 取引d for. So if we're not 'Just Doing It', what is really to 非難する?

The 後退，不況 can't be helping sex lives in the UK. Money worries, redundancy and 落ちるing house prices aren't the best aphrodisiacs.

It may be that the 経済的な 下降 is having an 衝撃 on the nation upstairs, too. Exhaustion is awful, but who wants to sleep their way through life?

As my dear old Irish mammy says: 'Sure you're dead long enough!' - and I don't know a 選び出す／独身 person who, on their death bed, would say: 'I wish I'd slept more and had いっそう少なく sex.'


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