The 悪口を言う／悪態 of the '有毒な friend': How eight in ten of us put up with people who 原因（となる） more 害（を与える） than good

By Tamara Abraham for MailOnline
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Our friends are supposed to be our closest confidantes and support 網状組織. But for many of us, they can be more hindrance than help.

によれば a new 調査する, 84 per cent of women struggle with いわゆる '有毒な friends' who are self-吸収するd, emotionally draining, 批判的な or backstabbing.

Men did not fare much better, with three-４半期/4分の1s admitting to having had? such a friendship.

Toxic relationship: Eight in ten women struggle with friends who are self-absorbed, emotionally draining, critical or backstabbing

有毒な 関係: Eight in ten women struggle with friends who are self-吸収するd, emotionally draining, 批判的な or backstabbing

Sixty-five パーセント of those 投票d complained of having a self-obsessed friend, and 59 per-cent （刑事）被告 their closest 知識s of 存在 emotional 'vampires' - draining all their energy reserves.

The 投票, of 18,000 women and 4,000 men by Today.com and Sel f magazine 設立する just over half had an over-批判的な friend, while 45 per cent 報告（する）／憶測d backstabbing behaviour and barbed comments.

Thirty-seven per cent of people questioned also 認める to 存在 turned off by friends who were unreliable or flaky.

Irene Levine, professor of psychiatry at New York University's School of 薬／医学 and creator of The Friendship Blog told the Today show: 'A number of 熟考する／考慮するs have shown that の近くに friendships 減ずる 強調する／ストレス, 少なくなる the 危険 of 不景気, 改善する health 結果s and even 高める longevity.

TOP FIVE TOXIC FRIEND PERSONALITY TYPES

  1. Self-吸収するd

  2. Emotional vampires

  3. Over-批判的な

  4. Backstabbing

  5. Unreliable

Source: Today.com/Self magazine

'Not only do we get practical advice and logistical support from friends, but the 利益s of feeling understood and supported are immeasurable.'

Though a third 認める that they would end a friendship with someone who was untrustworthy, 83 per cent said that they had let a friendship drag on longer than it should have done because the prospect of 'breaking up' was too daunting.

Instead, 37 per cent 封鎖するd those they didn't like on Facebook, while 53 'downgraded' friends from people they saw 定期的に to just occasionally.

Dr Gail Saltz, associate professor of psychiatry at New York Presbyterian Hospital, 追加するd: 'The 推論する／理由 it's hard to 捨てる a 有毒な friend is the same 推論する／理由 people stay in all 肉親，親類d of dysfunctional 関係s. There's something in it that you find 説得力のある or familiar.

'Depending on the nature of what's going on in the 関係, you may feel 有罪の. Or it could be that the person has 暗示するd you need them in some way - that you would be a bad person to walk away.'

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