Does this film 証明する it can be 権利 for a man to 支払う／賃金 for sex?

By Bel Mooney for the Daily Mail

Published: 23:12 BST, 16 January 2013 | Updated: 12:49 BST, 17 January 2013

The man is sharp, witty, good-looking - and profoundly 無能にするd. The only part of his 団体／死体 he can move is his 長，率いる.

But he can still be sexually 誘発するd and, perhaps more importantly, his heart and mind are pulsating with life. 示す O'Brien longs to be loved, but he also wants not to die a virgin.

So what can he do? After much agonising (for he is a カトリック教徒), he 雇うs a 性の surrogate to 始める him into the 楽しみ of 性の 解放（する）.

Scroll 負かす／撃墜する for ビデオ

示す O'Brien longs to be loved, but he also wants not to die a virgin

The surrogate, or 性の therapist, teaches him, step by step, how to have sex. Yet, through her, he also finds 傷をいやす／和解させるing at a 深い, emotional level.

This is the 乱すing real-life 陰謀（を企てる） of a brand-new film, The 開会／開廷／会期s - the whole idea of which might make some people feel?queasy.

Talking about sex and 無能にするd people is one of the last タブーs, even though we live in a 高度に-sexualised society that いつかs seems unshockable.

It's ironic that vulgar comedians are 許すd to make disgusting jokes about sex on television, yet the people who chortle in 是認 are (I'd put money on it) the very ones likely to mutter, 'Yuk - too much （警察などへの）密告，告訴（状）!' if told the frank story of 示す O'Brien.

John 強硬派s and Helen 追跡（する） 星／主役にする in the new 議論の的になる film 伴う／関わるing a form of 売春

Yet I believe we should all see this movie, which opens in UK cinemas on Friday, because it 扱うs the 問題／発行する of sex and 無能にするd people with tenderness and compassion.

And we do need to know about this. People are 無能にするd in war and peace; countless families 対処する with caring for those with physical and mental impairments which make life very difficult indeed.

We're all too aware that superbly-fit young men leave for Afghanistan and return grievously afflicted by disability, needing long rehabilitation at magnificent centres. But there's one thing we can't 援助（する） them with: sex.

Yet you may 内密に wonder how they will 対処する with their girlfriends and wives. Can they have a 十分な life in that way? How does a marriage 生き残る disability? How desperate can it make you feel?

My own brother (who died two years ago) had a terrible car 衝突，墜落 when he was 19 which left him a paraplegic. Visiting him in hospital introduced me, at the age of 17, to young men who had lost the use of their 団体／死体s through motorcycle, sport and 飛び込み 事故s (to give just three examples).

I remember flirting with one good-looking biker, who loved the attention. But at night at home I couldn't help wondering sadly what his love life could かもしれない be like in the 荒涼とした 未来.

It was a question I would never, ever have asked my brother, even though he was to marry much later. You couldn't, could you? It's not a 支配する families talk about.

This film isn't really about sex at all. It is about the ways we 慰安 each other

Yet The 開会／開廷／会期s does. I 恐れるd it might make uncomfortable, prurient 見解（をとる）ing. But, on the contrary, it takes you - with tact, delicacy and humour - into the mind of an intelligent man who 直面するs up to his own need for 性の 傷をいやす／和解させるing (to use the 指名する of a classic Marvin Gaye song) and decides to 行為／法令／行動する.

It's 重要な that the director Ben Lewin had childhood polio, as does the character of 示す O'Brien in the film. No wonder this film takes such a 勇敢な 姿勢, asking the questions we able-団体／死体d have only dared to wonder. Not only this, it answers them in the most uplifting way.

The true story is very moving. Californian 示す O'Brien was born in 1949. He 契約d polio when he was just six and spent the 残り／休憩（する） of his life paralysed. His 条件 meant he needed to spend as much time as he could 耐える in an アイロンをかける 肺.

But in it - with the help of carers - he managed to go to university, produced poetry and articles (（電話線からの）盗聴 a typewriter with a stick in his mouth), and became an 支持する for the 無能にするd.

At the end of the 1980s, he was put in touch with 性の surrogate Cheryl Cohen-Greene and their '開会／開廷／会期s' to help him 達成する his 願望（する） of 十分な sex are the 支配する of this film.

The frank 業績／成果s by John 強硬派s and Helen 追跡（する） are nothing short of 驚くべき／特命の／臨時の. The 涙／ほころびs in their 注目する，もくろむs are real. And so were 地雷.

The 問題／発行する of how far 無能にするd people should be 'helped' to a 十分な sex life has 原因（となる）d 論争 in the past. In 2010, some people felt 乱暴／暴力を加える that a young man with learning disabilities was going to be 基金d through a 政府 計画／陰謀 (called Putting People First: Transforming Adult Social Care) to go to Amsterdam and have sex with a 売春婦.

It wasn't the 問題／発行する of 売春 which bothered me, nor the young man's needs and wishes. It was the fact that his social 労働者 述べるd sex as a 'human 権利' (meaning that it must be paid for from the public purse) that annoyed me.

At the time I wrote: 'We might 井戸／弁護士席 ask how giving a young man a handout to buy loveless sex with a 売春婦 can do anything to 促進する his independence or his dignity. Surely it could 活発に 損失 his wellbeing, too - even if only on a level of stoking 未来 失望／欲求不満.

'And I can't help wondering about the "human 権利s" of all the sad, shy people who 令状 to my Saturday advice column, desperate for love and - yes - sex. No one will give them a handout to buy what they cannot find in the usual way.'

This is not about the '権利' to sexuality. It's about the need for tenderness

In The 開会／開廷／会期s, there is no talk of human 権利s, nor any bitterness. 示す O'Brien has the means to do what he wants, discusses it with his priest, tries to come to 条件 with his shame and 恐れる -and then forms a real 関係 with Cheryl.

She is at 苦痛s to distance what she does from 売春, considering herself an 専門家 therapist who 作品 in a very specialised way.

In real life, Cheryl Cohen-Greene is a certified sex surrogate with a 博士号 in human sexuality.
About her profession she has said this: 'People have asked me over the years, how do you work with people who are 異なって-abled? I always say it's not hard for me. I just have to learn what their special needs are.'

In this country, organisations like The 部外者s (部外者s.org.uk) and Tender Loving Care (tlc?信用.org.uk) work to recognise the 性の needs of 無能にするd people and 申し込む／申し出 help, 含むing putting them in touch with 登録（する）d sex 労働者s.

I know some readers might find this 容認できない. I don't. I believe they 供給する an invaluable service. If you find the thought unpalatable, I 示唆する you go to see The 開会／開廷／会期s to start understanding the needs of others, which is an 必須の part of humanity.

For this is not about the '権利' to sexuality. It's about the need for tenderness and 尊敬（する）・点, 同様に as 性の 解放（する）.

People who are 無能にするd 落ちる in love, and it is perfectly natural that such love would want physical 表現, 同様に as the talking and laughing which forms an important part of the therapy shown in The 開会／開廷／会期s.

This film isn't really about sex at all. It is about the ways we 慰安 each other.

The 開会／開廷／会期s is an antidote to the cheap sex scenes that are the 在庫／株-in-貿易（する） of film and TV. It's as far from pornography as the 星／主役にするs are from the earth - and reminds us of the beauty that can 存在する within an entire person, whatever the 制限s of the 団体／死体.

VIDEO Helen is a therapist who teaches a paralysed man about 性の 解放（する）?