Kindfulness:?It’s the new 新たな展開 on mindfulness ― 存在 consciously 肉親，親類d to others

Kindfulness: It’s the new 新たな展開 on mindfulness ― 存在 consciously 肉親，親類d to others. The best thing? It’s good for you, too

Padraig O’Morain （人命などを）奪う，主張するs we are becoming too 厳しい on ourselves

The?Psychotherapist 示唆するs if we are kinder to ourselves we can help others?

He says kindfulness is about not putting things off until you become perfect?

He teaches a 一連の演習s for loving yourself, 関わりなく欠陥s?

専門家s （人命などを）奪う，主張する行為／法令／行動するs of 親切 can have 肯定的な psychological 影響s?

Published: 22:04 BST, 20 May 2018 | Updated: 22:15 BST, 20 May 2018

Fed up with ‘mindfulness’? Think ‘self-care’ has turned us into navel-gazers? Then you’ll be happy to hear the 最新の buzzword is ‘kindfulness’ ― mindfulness’s more compassionate sister.

British physicist-turned-Buddhist-修道士 Ajahn Brahm is worried that most people’s take on mindfulness ― 存在 ‘現在の’ and aware of our inner thoughts ― is making us too 焦点（を合わせる）d on ourselves. So he 追加するd 親切 to the mix and （機の）カム up with kindfulness. It might sound cringey, but the idea of finding fulfilment through 扱う／治療するing yourself ― and others ― 井戸／弁護士席 has taken off. There are two more 調書をとる／予約するs on Kindfulness 存在 published later this year.

Psychotherapist Padraig O’Morain, author of Kindfulness (published in June) believes the clamour for self-改良 is making us too 厳しい on ourselves.

‘Kindfulness is about 存在 a friend to the person you are now, not putting it off until you become a perfect person, which for most of us never arrives,’ he says.

Psychotherapist Padraig O’Morain believes 存在 kinder to ourselves will make us more able to help others. 専門家s （人命などを）奪う，主張する kindfulness is growing as people yearn for positivity (とじ込み／提出する image)

‘If we’re kinder to ourselves, it will make us more able to turn those feelings に向かって others’.

In the 調書をとる／予約する, he teaches a 一連の演習s that 焦点（を合わせる） on 受託するing yourself with all your 欠陥s. For example, try this three times a day: imagine someone you love is sitting in 前線 of you and needs compassion. の近くに your 注目する，もくろむs and try to 生成する those feelings.

Then say silently: ‘Be happy, be 安全な, be 井戸／弁護士席.’ Stay with the feeling, then imagine their place is taken by you.

Kindfulness is part of the 親切復活 that’s been 集会 pace in the past year. There are 4.3 million 地位，任命するs on Instagram with the hashtag #親切, which 文書 small 行為／法令／行動するs of compassion. Last month 含むd international #payitforward day, where people were challenged to 完全にする three 無作為の行為／法令／行動するs of 親切.

Online fundraising 壇・綱領・公約s are also にわか景気ing. GoFundMe, where people 地位，任命する控訴，上告s online, has 報告（する）／憶測d a 50 per cent 上昇傾向 in the past year. 最近の事例／患者s 含む strangers giving a 終点癌苦しんでいる人 one last fishing trip and 支払う／賃金ing for a holiday for a 無能にするd man who had been attacked in the street.

Bernadette Russell, author of The Little 調書をとる／予約する of 親切 (Orion, ￡7.99), believes it’s all a reaction to 荒涼とした world news. ‘There’s a real yearning for positivity,’ she says. ‘People are 説: “I can’t do much about Syria, but I can check my 年輩の隣人 is ok for milk.” There’s an acknowledgment that small 行為／法令／行動するs in our communities can make a difference.’

In 2011, Bernadette 公約するd to do something 肉親，親類d for a stranger every day for a year, and she 文書d it in her 調書をとる／予約する.

Seven years on, she’s still doing it and says it has transformed her life: ‘You feel good because you’ve been good, and there’s nothing wrong with that.’

選挙運動者 Jaime Thurston believes the 親切革命 is a reaction to the 孤立／分離 that can come from living life online. She advises talking to people attentively (とじ込み／提出する image)

選挙運動者 Jaime Thurston thinks the 親切復活 is also a reaction to the sense of 孤立／分離 that can come with living our lives online.

‘There’s a longing to connect, to feel 実行するd and be useful. That’s harder now we don’t live in communities so much and everyone feels they are too busy to do things.’

Jaime, author of 親切: The Little Thing That 事柄s Most, 始める，決める up her charity 52 Lives in 2013. Every week she 最高潮の場面s one person who needs help to more than 70,000 信奉者s on Facebook. They’ve recently paid the deposit on a rented flat for a homeless woman, and 工場／植物d a sensory garden for a 無能にするd child.

Those 70,000 people aren’t just helping others ― they’re doing good for themselves, too. 研究 shows 親切利益s both physical and mental health, says Dr David Hamilton, author of The Five 味方する-影響s Of 親切.

Dr Hamilton （人命などを）奪う，主張するs 行為／法令／行動するs of 親切 can have a 肯定的な影響 on the 団体／死体 and mind. 熟考する／考慮するs 示唆する存在肉親，親類d 解放（する）s a natural high (とじ込み／提出する image)

‘存在肉親，親類d 生成するs the “親切” hormone oxytocin, which also happens to be a major cardiovascular hormone,’ he says. ‘It keeps the arteries （疑いを）晴らす and lowers 血圧力 by 減ずるing levels of harmful 解放する／自由な過激なs and inflammation, which 原因（となる）病気. These are also the main 犯人s for 原因（となる）ing ageing to our 独房s, so you could also say that 親切 slows the ageing 過程.’

親切 also appears to have an 影響 on the vagus 神経, which 規制するs the heartbeat and 支配（する）／統制するs 緩和 of our 団体／死体s. ‘A feeling of compassion seems to 刺激する this system,’ says Dr Hamilton.

There are 肯定的な psychological 影響s of 親切, too, known as the ‘he lper’s high’. 熟考する／考慮するs show that volunteers experience a natural high ― a 解放（する） of the brain’s natural opiates and dopamine.

Best of all, 親切 seems to be contagious. ‘When we’re 肉親，親類d, we 奮起させる others to be 肉親，親類d and it creates a ripple 影響 that spreads outwards to friends of friends of friends,’ says Dr Hamilton.

‘Whether you call it kindfulness or 親切, it has remarkable 影響s on 団体／死体 and mind. It’s essentially 解放する／自由な薬／医学 ― what’s not to like?’

Bernadette Russell 示唆するs trying small 行為／法令／行動するs of 親切 without underestimating their 力／強力にする (とじ込み／提出する image)

NINE SHORTCUTS TO KINDFULNESS

SOFTEN YOUR VOICE

When things go wrong, instead of criticising yourself, ask: ‘What would a good friend say?’ ‘If you’re on a diet and you’ve just wolfed a 抱擁する slice of cake, don’t （警官の）巡回区域，受持ち区域 yourself up. Say: “I’m going to let it go then get 支援する on the wagon,”� � Padraig O’Morain says.

BE ATTENTIVE

Put away your phone when talking to people, says Jaime Thurston. ‘It’s said attention is the most basic form of love, but we often don’t give it.’

SMALL IS BEAUTIFUL

Tiny things make a difference, such as phoning a friend you 港／避難所’t seen in a while or baking a cake for someone having a hard time. ‘Don’t underestimate the 力／強力にする of those tiny 関係s,’ says Bernadette Russell.

Jamie advises stepping up to help others as it could turn around their whole day (とじ込み／提出する image)

DO SOMETHING FOR NOTHING

Use your 技術s to help someone ― mow their lawn or help with their 税金s. It will give you a warm glow and they will want to pass on the 親切.

SAY SORRY?

If you’ve snapped at someone, go 支援する and apologise. It has a 洗浄するing 影響.

BE KIND TO UNKIND PEOPLE

It elevates our mood and will make them think, creating a ‘ripple’ 影響 of 親切.

STEP UP AND HELP

If someone’s struggling to find change or carrying 激しい捕らえる、獲得するs, step 今後. It will turn around their whole day ― and yours, says Jaime.

GIVE OTHERS THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT??

That person who just 削減（する） you up in traffic might be having a 堅い time. ‘If you can think the best of everyone it will 増加する your capacity for 親切,’ says Jaime.

LEAVE HOME A MINUTE EARLIER

When we’re 急ぐing, we don’t have time to let someone in the 列 before us. Leaving home a minute before you need to will 許す you to cultivate patience and be kinder.