Mum 誘発するs 審議 by asking for cash instead of 現在のs at her daughter's fifth birthday party - but many argue it's '全く fair'

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A mum has divided opinion after asking her child's birthday party guests to 与える／捧げる cash rather than buy a 現在の.?

The Sydney woman said she would prefer money 出資／貢献s so she can buy her four-year-old daughter something she really wants rather than receiving 'a 抱擁する 量 of toys'.?

Parents thought the 'rude request' went against proper party etiquette and would make 招待するs 'uncomfortable'.?

However, not everyone thought asking for cash was a bad idea and said they would much rather put a 'fiver' in a card than have to shop around for a gift.??

'My four-year-old is turning five soon and we are planning a birthday party for her.?Is it okay to について言及する in the 招待する that we would prefer cash 出資／貢献s rather than gifts?' the mum asked in a 地位，任命する.

A mum has 原因（となる）d a 動かす の中で parents after she asked if it was appropriate to request guests at her daughter's birthday party 与える／捧げる cash rather than buy her gifts

'The 意向 is to have a 編集 and then get her to go shopping for her a gift of her choice.?We just live in a two-bedroom 部隊, so we don't really have space for a 抱擁する 量 of toys.'

She asked if other mums had ever done the same for their kids' birthdays and for advice on how to politely ask for money without 感情を害する／違反するing guests.?

But many were quick to 激突する the suggestion arguing it would put parents in an 'ぎこちない position' as they tried to 人物／姿／数字 out how much to 与える／捧げる.?

'I 本人自身で think it's a little rude and if you ask for cash then it could make people uncomfortable,' one woman said.?

'This is ぎこちない, 特に if it's a daycare/school friend that you don't know that 井戸／弁護士席. What's 許容できる? Also, I think part of the joy at their age is 開始 up the gifts and it 存在 a surprise,' a second pointed out.?

The Sydney woman said she would prefer cash 出資／貢献s so she can buy her four-year-old daughter something she really wants rather than receiving 'a 抱擁する 量 of toys

'It's rude unless you 明示する a low 量 they should give,' a third agreed and another said: 'I would find it a bit off-putting'.?

One mum said she had never heard of a cash request outside of weddings while another 示唆するd the woman 招待する a smaller group of people if she didn't want too many toys.

While some didn't think asking for money was out of line they 示唆するd いっそう少なく 'ぎこちない' approaches.

'Definitely just put some specificity around the dollar 量, like $5-$10 or something and say it's going に向かって buying her a gift,' one member recommended.

'We were 招待するd to a party that said 'no boxed gifts'. Everyone gave a gift card or cash,' a second 解任するd and a third 追加するd: 'You could 始める，決める up a registry or wishing 井戸／弁護士席 to make it easier for people to decide how much to spend.'

Someone said they had once 始める，決める a 'no plastic 支配する' for 現在のs and received 調書をとる／予約するs and puzzles while another 示唆するd asked for experiences like movie tickets, zoo passes or indoor play 開会／開廷／会期s.

However, others were 完全に supportive of the mum's money ask 説 it '減ずるs waste' and 妨げるs kids getting unwanted or duplicate gifts.?

'I'm so into cash for 現在のs. They get so much crap they rarely play with, it's better for them to choose one decent 現在の that they will 高く評価する／（相場などが）上がる,' one woman said.?

'We asked for cash instead of a gift for our daughter and have used this money on her swimming/dance classes instead. We were moving and 推定する／予想するing a baby so the 'stuff' would not have been 高く評価する／（相場などが）上がるd,' another 追加するd.?

'I don't see anything wrong with asking for cash instead of gifts. Makes it easier for parents gifting the child!' a third wrote.?