Hypnotism gave me the baby I longed for

Debbie Bundock, 37, spent four years trying for a baby.

In desperation, she and her husband, 示す, 41, both teachers from Aylesbury, Buckinghamshire, decided they would try IVF, a 手続き they had 深い 保留（地）／予約s about.

But 運命／宿命 介入するd when Debbie heard hypnotist Paul McKenna on the 無線で通信する 存在 interviewed about the 力／強力にする of hypnosis.

It was a conversation she will, happily, never forget, she tells us.

持つ／拘留するing my baby Owain is a dream come true. For four years, I had tried to get 妊娠している, by almost every method imaginable, and now I have my longedfor son.

But Owain is not a 勝利 for science. He was not created in a 研究室／実験室.

Last December, I was at 激しく揺する-底（に届く） emotionally. Doctors said in-vitro fertilisation was the only 選択 left. It didn't seem the 権利 way to make a baby and neither of us were happy about it. It is invasive, unpleasant and the 半端物s of success are not good. But we were desperate to start a family.

We made our 任命 to see a 顧問 at the hospital in January. By chance, I was listening to a 地元の 無線で通信する 駅／配置する when I heard the 発言する／表明する of celebrity hypnotist Paul McKenna.

He was talking about a New York career woman whose problem was the same as 地雷. When she tried for a baby, nothing happened, though 医療の 実験（する）s 設立する no problems.

Paul said that the mind has a powerful 支配（する）／統制する over the 団体／死体. If you tell yourself long enough and often enough that you don't want a baby - as many women do when they have to earn a living - your 団体／死体 listens.

It is a 過程 that is hard to 逆転する, but hypnotism could help. After working with the woman, she fell 妊娠している with twins.

For most of my adult life, babies were not on my 協議事項. When I was a 十代の少年少女 and my girlfriends were dreaming of their 未来 lives, they invariably hoped for a family, but not me. I love children. I have nieces and 甥s I adore, but I 欠如（する）d a strong maternal instinct.

I met 示す at a swimming 祝祭, which we were both …に出席するing as teachers, in 1990. We fell in love and married a couple of years later.

Even then I had no 願望（する） for a baby and 示す knew this, and felt the same. We were enjoying our lives too much. I had a horse and enjoyed riding. We both love skiing. We had an active social life and loved our work.

But five years ago, something changed. I felt within myself that I 手配中の，お尋ね者 a child. There wasn't any 広大な／多数の／重要な turning point, more a growing realisation. I brought the 支配する up with 示す. Until we discussed it, we hadn't realised we both felt the same way.

I assumed it would happen easily and I wasn't worried. I was only 32 and there was no 推論する／理由 to 疑問 my fertility. A baby would mean a 抱擁する change to our lives, but I was ready for it.

For the first two years, it was obvious nothing was happening, but it wasn't a problem - I knew of other people who had taken a long time to get 妊娠している.

But it was time to see a doctor. Waiting every month - only to be disappointed - was becoming 失望させるing. On the NHS - it would have taken four months just to see a 顧問 - so we had 実験（する）s done 個人として.

We nervously waited for the results and were told there was nothing medically wrong with either of us. That was a 抱擁する 救済, but also raised the question of why had I not been able to conceive.

On the advice of my 顧問, I gave up alcohol. Keeping fit wasn't a problem as I was a PE teacher.

We also watched our diet - eating more fruit and vegetables and いっそう少なく 過程d food. I took 公式文書，認める of my cycle and we had sex when I was most fertile. We also began to consider the idea of 可決する・採択するing a baby if we couldn't have our own.

One of the worst 面s was not knowing why I wasn't 反対／詐欺 ceiving.

We were 存在 pointed に向かって IVF without anyone 存在 able to tell us why when the 実験（する）s said there was nothing wrong. That was the most 失望させるing and upsetting 面.

After two years we began to 辞職する ourselves to the fact that we weren't going to have a family. It had become an unspoken 支配する between us. We had tried everything short of IVF.

I am a level-長，率いるd, sensible person and this was 全く out of character, but I wrote a letter, which I left at the box office for Paul, asking for advice or if he knew anybody who could help. I didn't think he would get it - let alone 答える／応じる. And I had not told 示す.

A few days later I got a call from Paul. I was astonished. He asked me if there was any 医療の 推論する／理由 why I couldn't conceive.

He said that he didn't （人命などを）奪う，主張する to cure 医療の problems, but was keen to work with women who couldn't have a baby for no obvious 推論する／理由.

He said there was often a mental 封鎖する which could be 恐れる of the change to lifestyle a baby would bring, the 苦痛 of childbirth or a feeling that as a mother the woman would not be able to 対処する.

Subconsciously the brain was sending out messages 説 a baby wasn't 手配中の，お尋ね者 and the 団体／死体 was 答える／応じるing. Hypnotism could break 負かす／撃墜する that mental 障壁.

Because I had not 手配中の，お尋ね者 a family for such a long time he thought he might be able to help me. 示す was shocked that I had 接触するd him. But, when I explained he was 希望に満ちた, too.

Friends joked about the swinging watch beloved of 行う／開催する／段階 hypnotists and me 存在 in a 深い trance. But it was nothing like you'd imagine.

Paul has a wonderful melodic 発言する／表明する that is very soothing. He talked about what our lives were like and how I felt about children. He was very 肯定的な.

He 手配中の，お尋ね者 me to visualise the whole 過程 from the egg, to it 存在 fertilised, the foetus growing and the final mental picture was always me 持つ／拘留するing my baby.

After two 開会／開廷／会期s I was more 肯定的な. I think I had decided that having a baby was not going to happen and after seeing Paul those 疑問s disappeared.

I used the visualisation 演習s he recommended and we both tried his tapes 目的（とする）d at 打ち勝つing 強調する／ストレス. We still use them now. Always my last mental image was of me 持つ／拘留するing my new baby.

Within three weeks of the 開会／開廷／会期s with Paul I was 妊娠している. I couldn't believe it when the pregnancy 実験（する） turned blue. Just to be sure though we dashed out and bought another 実験（する）ing 道具 and the result was the same.

Many doctors who work in 従来の 薬／医学 are dismissive about 代案／選択肢 治療s.

I know it's something that can never be 証明するd 100 per cent, but as far as I am 関心d the results speak for themselves. You have to believe the mind is powerful and able to 支配（する）／統制する the 団体／死体.

Overjoyed, I rang Paul to tell him I was 妊娠している at last, and he was as pleased as I was. My pregnancy went 罰金 and the baby was born a few days 早期に.

初めは Owain had been 予定 on September 11, but I gave birth 自然に to a 7lb baby boy on September 6 at Stoke Mandeville Hospital, the very place where I would have had my IVF 治療.

Looking 支援する, I think people can 結局最後にはーなる going for IVF because there seems no other choice. IVF should be a last 訴える手段／行楽地. Its costs - both financially and emotionally - can be enormous. If there is an 代案／選択肢, surely it is 価値（がある） considering?

I'm delighted with my baby. That he arrived just when I was giving up hope makes him all the more special. It's 早期に days yet, but it's not beyond the realms of 可能性 that we will try for a second child in the 未来.

A happy postscript is that when my friends discovered I was 妊娠している, one 接触するd Paul. She had struggled to conceive for several years and had tried IVF once, which had failed.

She was 乗る，着手するing on her second try when she 接触するd Paul. She i s now 推定する／予想するing twins.

Was it hypnotism or the IVF? Who knows. She's just delighted to be 推定する／予想するing.