How to get the mind you've always 手配中の，お尋ね者
We know a 肯定的な 態度 is the 重要な to happiness, but how can we 達成する it when those pesky 消極的な thoughts won’t go away? 平易な ? just follow wellness guru Shereen Oberg’s nine-step 計画（する）?
We can start to 打ち勝つ 消極的な thoughts
Step 1 Learn to see negativity for what it really is:??
We usually associate 消極的な thoughts with feelings of 怒り／怒る and annoyance directed at something 外部の to us: traffic, maybe, or noisy 隣人s.
These, however, are not really 消極的な thoughts but rather superficial irritations that mask the real 問題／発行するs. The 消極的な thoughts we need to work on are the more subtle, 深く，強烈に ingrained ones that we have about our own lives and how we perceive ourselves. These are the thoughts that can make us feel 権力のない and weak, or tell us that we are not good enough as we are.
The trouble begins in childhood. We are 条件d, from a very young age, to listen to and learn from adults, which helps keep us 安全な but also means we can 相続する 消極的な belief systems without eve n realising it. 外傷／ショックs experienced by our parents, siblings and の近くに family or friends are 事業／計画（する）d on to and 吸収するd by us.
These feelings of 欠如（する） of self-価値（がある）, since we’re not consciously aware of them, build 層 upon 層. It is only when we learn to peel away these 層s of 相続するd beliefs ? to identify those thoughts we have about ourselves and our lives that are not our own ? that we can start to 打ち勝つ them.
Step 2 Get your thoughts in order:??
All thoughts ? 肯定的な or 消極的な ? tend to 落ちる into one of the に引き続いて 部類s…
★ Thoughts about the past (解任するing a person, 状況／情勢, place, event or emotion).
★ Thoughts about the 未来 (what we 計画（する） to do or what might happen).
★ Thoughts about ourselves (self-image and how we 行為／法令／行動する).
★ Thoughts about others (how they compare to us, what they’ve done to us and think of us).
★ Thoughts as reactions (to what we see or experience).
★ Thoughts of 創造 (ideas and 見通しs).
Take a moment to categorise a few of your thoughts ? 令状ing 簡潔な／要約する 公式文書，認めるs can be helpful here. This ability to categorise will come in useful in step four.
Step 3 Recognise what your subconscious is really up to:
Unconscious 消極的な thoughts 一般的に create a generalised feeling that you are 欠如（する）ing or failing in some way. Your conscious mind tells you that you have everything you need ? that you should be ha ppy and content ? yet still that unconscious negativity 土台を崩すs the message: you need to work more, give more, eat いっそう少なく, 演習 more, be a better partner…
The root of these subconscious thoughts may be that during your childhood you experienced a 欠如（する） of love, attention, your parents’ time, self-価値（がある）… Or it could be that you 相続するd them from the adults around you in your formative years.
Whatever the 原因（となる） of them, you have the 力／強力にする to change your subconscious thoughts by recognising them for what they are. The subconscious is like a 貯蔵 部隊 in which we 保持する the 蓄積するd thoughts of our life. いつかs they can help us on our 旅行, but いつかs they need to be （疑いを）晴らすd away to make room for something more useful.
Step 4?Do some homework:?
Once you have 受託するd that your subconscious mind is 蓄える／店ing all manner of 相続するd 消極的な thoughts, you can begin to 向こうずね a light on them ? and transform them into 肯定的な ones.
Do the に引き続いて practice throughout the day while you are active and also in the evening when you come to stillness, maybe before going to bed. Try to notice whether the thoughts are まず第一に／本来 in one 部類 or whether they are spread out.
★ 始める，決める the 意向 to become more aware of your subconscious thou ghts.
★ When a thought arises, and you are conscious of it, 観察する it and take notice of it. Maybe 令状 it 負かす／撃墜する and categorise it. You can 令状 your thoughts 負かす／撃墜する すぐに to remember them or 手早く書き留める them 負かす／撃墜する at the end of the day.
★ As you are 令状ing 負かす／撃墜する a thought, notice whether there is another underlying thought ? maybe an even deeper, subconscious one ? that is fuelling it.
★ Try to make this practice as natural as possible to really start mapping the different types of thoughts that arise, both conscious and subconscious.
★ Begin by mapping out your thoughts around five times a day (増加する the frequency once you’re feeling more comfortable with the practice).
★ Then take this to the next level by 人物／姿／数字ing out where the thoughts are coming from and finding the root of when they started.
★ Now divide them into two different 部類s: 権力を与えるing thoughts and? ? ?disempowering thoughts.
★ Try to be aware of how your emotions and 活動／戦闘s are 影響する／感情d and 支配するd by these subconscious thoughts.
Step 5 Begin the 転換 by 静めるing your mind:
? We can’t just 無視／無効 現在の thoughts and mask them with 肯定的な ones. We have to find stillness within, aware of all the noise and 発言する／表明するs, to create a healthy and 権力を与えるing 明言する／公表する of mind. This helps us to better 観察する and 支配（する）／統制する our thoughts. To 達成する this stillness, try the に引き続いて…
★ Sit or 嘘（をつく） do wn comfortably, with your palms up, in a 静かな space.
★ の近くに your 注目する，もくろむs and relax.
★ Take three 深い breaths in through the nose and exhale through the mouth.
★ 始める，決める the 意向 to still your mind.
★ Become aware of your 団体／死体 and start relaxing, from your 長，率いる 負かす／撃墜する to your feet.
★ Wherever you feel 緊張, direct your breath there, until you feel relaxed and 激しい.
★ Bring your 認識／意識性 to your mind and thoughts: what is circling around there?
★ As a thought arises, notice it, 観察する it, and 解放（する） the need to think it.
★ Let your mind be 静かな; come 支援する to stillness.
★ Continue this 過程 for at least ten minutes. Every time a thought enters your mind, 簡単に 認める it and then return to stillness.
With practice, you’ll notice that thoughts arise いっそう少なく and いっそう少なく frequently, and it becomes easier to 解放（する） them and create 完全にする stillness each time. Just like training for a マラソン, mastering your thoughts takes practice, patience and persistence.
Step 6 Talk yourself to a better place:
?We don’t always notice how the conversations within our mind 影響する／感情 us, and we tend to gather 誤った knowledge about ourselves. This can be about how we look, talk, 行為／法令／行動する or just how we are, and these thoughts start 限界ing us. We try to be something or someone that we are not.
Conversely, affirmations are words that 明言する／公表する something good within us and help guide our minds に向かって more 肯定的な thoughts. Think of them as the 道具s that help us rewrite the coding of our mind to 強化する our 肯定的な thinking.
Affirmations can be very simple and 含む／封じ込める just one or two words, or they can be more コンビナート／複合体 and formed of whole 宣告，判決s. The 重要な factor of affirmations is that they begin to create an 影響 when we repeat them. The more we 権力を与える our mind with 肯定的な thoughts, the more 肯定的な we feel and 行為／法令／行動する, and the more 肯定的な things happen.
★ Choose a 始める，決める of affirmations from the box (see above) and practise repeating them to yourself in the morning when waking up and at night before going to bed.
★ Dedicate yourself to this practice and create time and space for it. It could be just for five minutes each time, or during a daily ritual such as にわか雨ing, walking, running, sitting in nature or whatever you can fit in to your day.
★ Each time you do the 演習, repeat the affirmations at least three times to let the 肯定的な messages 侵入する. Continue for one week.
★ For その後の weeks, choose a different 始める，決める of affirmations and repeat the 過程, 断言するing them to yourself in the morning, throughout the day and in the evening.
After a while you’ll notice that instead of 消極的な thoughts popping up, these affirmative thoughts will suddenly appear, in the same way a song can get stuck in your 長，率いる. This is a 調印する that the affirmation is working and that it has 取って代わるd other 消極的な thoughts. You can also use 肯定的な affirmations consciously, to 取って代わる 消極的な thoughts 直接／まっすぐに as they appear.
Step 7 Picture how positivity looks and feels:?
Thoughts can 発展させる from simple words and inner conversations to imagery and visualisations, which are a powerful 道具 for 肯定的な thinking.
To 実験 with the 衝撃 of visualisation, start by picturing a 肯定的な memory in your life. Sense how it feels in your 団体／死体. Then picture something 消極的な that has happened in your life and sense how that 影響する／感情s your emotions and feelings. You can also try visualising 肯定的な things you want to create to see how that feels and, conversely, visualise something 消極的な or something you 恐れる will happen to see how that feels.
The 重要な to creating more 肯定的な visualisations is to first find balance and then to start outweighing the 消極的な visualisation with the 肯定的な one. In this way we can begin 焦点（を合わせる）ing our minds on the things we want. This is a powerful way of 工場／植物ing seeds to create a more 肯定的な 見通し.
Step 8 Remember the 力／強力にする of 感謝:?
This practice is very simple: think about things you’re 感謝する for 早期に in the morning, or before going to bed. This programmes your mind to 焦点（を合わせる） on what’s beautiful in life and creates more of that beauty.
Step 9 Be mindful of thoughts that 始める，決める you 支援する:?
消極的な thoughts are 一般的に 悪化させるd when we start comparing and competing with others. This is a particular problem as social マスコミ 砲撃するs us with the perceived perfection of others’ lives. When you feel dragged 負かす／撃墜する by feelings of inadequacy, come 支援する to the previous steps.
However, remember that the 目的（とする） isn’t to 禁止（する） all 消極的な thoughts or emotions, instead what you are trying to do is become aware of them ーするために embrace them, work with them and ? 最終的に ? transform them. After all, our 旅行 through life is not about 避けるing our 影をつくる／尾行するs but about 会合 them and 存在 able to see the 肯定的なs behind them.??
- This is an edited 抽出する from The 法律 of Positivism by Shereen Oberg, published by Hay House, price £10.99. To order a copy for £9.34 until 9 August, go to mailshop.co.uk/調書をとる／予約するs or call 020 3308 9193. 解放する／自由な UK 配達／演説／出産 on orders over £20.?
- Follow Shereen at @lawofpositivism?
