Do you 悔いる YOUR first time? より小数の and より小数の of us do, によれば a new 調査する. But as these writers 明らかにする／漏らす, the memories can still make you cringe

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The first time we make love is something few forget, but often for the wrong 推論する／理由s.?

Yet a 調査する 示唆するs today’s first-timers find the experience more pleasurable than their 相当するものs throughout the Eighties and Nineties.?

Here, five writers 反映する on who they lost their virginity to ― and whether they 悔いる it.?

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より小数の and より小数の of us 悔いる our first time having sex, によれば a new 調査する

NO: ‘I adored my Italian 外交官／大使’

Elisabeth Luard, 72, writer and cookery author, is a 未亡人 and lives in むちの跡s. She has three children and lost her virginity at 17. She says:

The moon was 十分な, the 空気／公表する was fragrant with night-flowering jasmine, and the water in the 激しく揺する-pool was warm against my 明らかにする 肌. And it was there, in Acapulco, that I lost my virginity to the most handsome, most charming and most romantic man I’d ever met.

I was a few weeks short of my 18th birthday, and Andrea ― tall, 運動競技の, bookish ― was a little more than twice my age.

As Italy’s 外交官／大使 to Mexico, he was the most 適格の bachelor on the 外交の 回路・連盟. And since my stepfather was a 上級の 外交官 at the British 大使館 ― where I was 雇うd 一時的に as a shorthand-typist ― our love would have been scandalous, which would never do.

Our 関係 began with secret, unconsummated 週刊誌 trysts ― siesta-time Thursday, 大使の 時刻表／予定表 permitting.

Andrea loved to cook ― another 推論する／理由 to 落ちる in love ― and we 株d 内密の lunches under the jacaranda trees in the 大使の gardens.

I remember saltimbocca ― jump-in-the-mouth slivers of veal cooked in butter with cream spooned over soft egg noodles ― and, afterwards, reading the love poems of Catullus. There were sips of a magical golden liqueur, strega, passed from mouth to mouth.

Even so, I was saving myself for marriage ― good men, said my mother, didn’t marry bad girls ― and I hoped we would 結局 marry.

But those good 意向s suddenly disappeared when we travelled to Acapulco at the same time. I went with my famil y while he was chaperone for Francoise Dorleac, Catherine Deneuve’s even more beautiful sister, at a film festival. I was terribly jealous to see them together and decided I had better do something bold to keep 持つ／拘留する of my man.

I don’t 悔いる it for an instant. Andrea was a 肉親，親類d and gentle lover, and I was lucky. A rockpool in Acapulco may not be a feather bed ― scratchy with a danger of 溺死するing ― but it worked for me. I was desperate for him to marry me. He chose not to. But that’s life.

YES: ‘I wish I’d waited for true romance’

Wendy Leigh, 56, an author and 新聞記者／雑誌記者, is 選び出す／独身 and lives in London. She lost her virginity 老年の 19. She says:

Manhattan at midnight. A five-星／主役にする hotel overlooking Central Park. I’m in the 武器 of Maximilian Schell, the Oscar-winning 星／主役にする of Judgment At Nuremberg, and we are enjoying a 熱烈な, life-断言するing 遭遇（する） between the sheets.

He may be in his 50s, and I may be いっそう少なく than half his age, but he has the 団体／死体 of a Greek god and a classically handsome 直面する with 激しい brown 注目する，もくろむs that 燃やす with lust and 解雇する／砲火／射撃. In short, he is the perfect lover, and unforgettable.

In the afterglow, 一打／打撃ing Maximilian’s トンd and tanned 団体／死体, my thoughts suddenly flip 支援する to the past and I am 打ち勝つ with 悔いる. Why, when I was 19, blonde, blue-注目する，もくろむd and 消費するd by my own 願望（する） to find love for the very first time, hadn’t I met Maximilian and lost my virginity to him?

Sadly, Maxmilian, who passed away earlier this year, wasn’t my first lover. He was in fact a much more ordinary man called （頭が）ひょいと動く.

The daughter of a London 実業家 and a teacher, I had a 避難所d しつけ in 郊外の Wimbledon; I only had my first kiss when I was 16 years old.

Then, while I was a student at th e University of Kent I took a holiday 職業 on a lifestyle magazine edited by （頭が）ひょいと動く, who was 38.

Bald, handsome, with 水晶 blue 注目する，もくろむs, （頭が）ひょいと動く had a brawny 団体／死体, and the ambition to become the first man ever to make love to me.

Six weeks after we met he did just that. But not in a five-星／主役にする hotel overlooking Central Park, nor with the panache of a Hollywood legend. Instead, （頭が）ひょいと動く 招待するd me to the 小島 of Wight. However, the traffic was terrible and we ended up in Bournemouth instead. We stayed the night at a dingy two-星／主役にする 搭乗 house somewhere on the sea 前線.

The 指名する and the 詳細（に述べる）s of the hotel have long since escaped me, but the memory of the most unromantic night of my life remains.

For while （頭が）ひょいと動く 養育するd a grand passion for me ― one which would 耐える for １０年間s ― our tryst left much to be 願望（する）d.

At the very least he was a 肉親，親類d-hearted soul, but looking 支援する I do rather 悔いる the whole thing.

Today’s first-timers find the experience more pleasurable than their 相当するものs throughout the Eighties and Nineties (在庫／株 image)

NO: ‘Still 甘い にもかかわらず going so wrong’

Andrew Clover, 44, an author, is married with three daughters and lives in Kent. He lost his virginity at 16 and says:

One hot teenage summer I was sent to the Young Theatre 協会 Summer （軍の）野営地，陣営, in a school in Cheltenham, where I learned the 古代の arts of 演劇, 発言する／表明する 発射／推定, and 落ちるing in love.

I fell in love twice on the first day, just once on the second, but my love, 式のs, was unrequited.

The third day, however, brought exhilarating news: a girl liked me.

She was 17, and in the year above me. Until then, I’d hardly noticed her. But then I saw her at the end of a 回廊（地帯） in a 黒人／ボイコット cloth hat, big brown 注目する，もくろむs shyly seeing me, and walking に向かって her I felt how a high-速度(を上げる） train must feel after its engine has been lit for the first time.

I don’t remember where we first kissed or what was said. I remember, though, with 幻覚の 質 her bedroom ― a plain box with a 選び出す／独身 bed ― and the thrill as I discovered her shoulders and her 武器 and how I kissed them.

On the penultimate day of the five-day course, she 示唆するd that the next day we make love. It was to be her first time 同様に. I’d only just learned to French kiss. I felt dizzy at this fresh 適切な時期.

In her room, finally, it began. And then very quickly all went wrong. Months later, out of the blue, she wrote me a letter, 警告 me another boy liked her.

I felt such a sharp pang of 悔恨. I realised she thought we were still together. But in a sense we were. We are. We were each other’s first.

Later, I often wished to see her again, to show her how much I’d 改善するd, but our paths never crossed again. Am I sorry it happened? Not at all.

Andrew Clover’s new novel, The Things I’d 行方不明になる, is published by Arrow 調書をとる／予約するs.

YES: ‘I felt under such 圧力’

Kathy Lette, 55, an author, is married with two children and lives in London. She grew up in Sydney and lost her virginity in her 早期に teens. She says:

The Australian blokes I grew up with in Sydney thought ‘sex 運動’ meant doing it in the car. Needless to say, my first 性の experience was in the 支援する of a 先頭.

After months of sycophantic adulation, I had finally been 受託するd into the coolest clique in school ― the surfie ギャング（団）. Every girl I knew 手配中の，お尋ね者 to get の近くに to these sexy, salty, 反抗的な love gods. And 17-year-old Garry was the Adonis-like leader of their 高度に 望ましい pack. He was the perfect male 見本／標本. A 最高の，を越す surfer with bronzed abs, serious pecs 控訴，上告, long blond hair , blue 注目する，もくろむs and shoulders 幅の広い enough to house my entire library of 調書をとる／予約するs.

(I was a straight-A student and, in my parents’ 注目する，もくろむs, fraternising with ‘望ましくないs’.)

Unfortunately, にもかかわらず Garry’s 高さ, he was emotionally stunted. When he gave me a friendship （犯罪の）一味 I knew the price of 存在 his chick.

Sex was the initiation into the surfie ギャング（団）. So with terrified 不本意 I climbed into the 支援する of his 先頭. It was a 全く unsatisfying 遭遇（する）, a squeamishly embarrassing, unpleasant and 全く 失望させるing welcome to womanhood.

Needless to say, I was madly in love. He, however, was 単に in lust. ‘You do love me, don’t you Gaz?’ I asked, peering up into his sea-blue 注目する，もくろむs.

To which （機の）カム the poetic reply, ‘Jeez Kath. I’m here, aren’t I?’ (明確に he was plagiarising Shakespeare.)

When I was young in the Seventies there was such 圧力 on girls to make love. It wasn’t a 事例／患者 of ‘what will he think if I do?’ but ‘what will he think if I don’t?’ Now, I 悔いる the whole 遭遇（する）. I wish I’d waited until I was over 16 and until I’d met a man who 満足させるd me emotionally. And who had a bed.

Kathy Lette’s 最新の novel, 法廷，裁判所ing Trouble, is published by Bantam.

YES: ‘My roll in the hay was a 災害’

Toby Young, 50, a writer, is married with four children and lives in L ondon. He lost his virginity 老年の 17. He says:

I was going through a difficult period in my life, having failed all my O-levels, and wasn’t 正確に／まさに a catch, so I’m not sure what this わずかに older girl saw in me.

We were both mods and I had a 50cc Vespa, so that might have been a factor. More likely, she was just feeling charitable.

She was a friend of my best friend’s girlfriend and we all went out on a 二塁打 date. We had やめる a lot to drink and I ended up 主要な her into a barn. This was in South Devon, where I was on a 居住の course, so a roll in the hay wasn’t that unusual.

But my elation quickly turned to 失望 when the experience became a 災害. In fact, I was 納得させるd I’d 苦しむd irreparable 損失 and would need to go to hospital. I was too embarrassed to talk about it to anyone, which left me 恐れるing the worst.

I began to think about what life would be like if I never had sex again ― no marriage, no children, no grandchildren. After a lot of 審議 I decided against going to hospital. It turned out the problem was a ありふれた enough 病気 for an inexperienced young man, and soon 訂正するd itself.

Then, about two months later, I started going out with a girl called Marianne, who I’d been at school with. She had dark curly hair and olive 肌 and I’d had a 鎮圧する on her for ages. Suddenly, there was light at the end of the tunnel.

I soon learned that sex within the 状況 of a loving 関係 is far more rewarding and 証明するd to be a 価値のある lesson. It’s one of the 推論する／理由s I’v e been happily married to my wife Caroline for 14 years.

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