'可決する・採択するing has destroyed us': British gay fathers who took in two ロシアの toddlers 恐れる one will KILL them after 存在 脅すd with knives, screwdrivers and even strangled with a DOG LEAD?

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Tiny and 壊れやすい, little Renat was frogmarched into the waiting room by two 決定するd ロシアの women and stripped of all his 着せる／賦与するs.?

It was minus 30C outside but waiting for Renat in the room was Glenn Hammet, a teacher from London, who quickly 手渡すd over a brand-new outfit he had been told to bring.

‘The 着せる／賦与するs 全く 押し寄せる／沼地d him,’ Glenn 解任するs. ‘He was three but so 栄養失調の, with terrible 肌, he looked half that age.’

In 1998, Glenn Hammet (left) and Keith Millay 可決する・採択するd Renat (権利) from an orphanage in Ulyanovsk, 550 miles east of Moscow. Two years later, they 可決する・採択するd Max from the same place

にもかかわらず the forbidding atmosphere, it was a moment of unbridled joy that Glenn had dreamed of for as long as he could remember ? one that, as a gay man, he never believed was possible.?

On November 12, 1998, in the ありそうもない surroundings of a ロシアの orphanage in Ulyanovsk, a frozen wasteland 550 miles east of Moscow, he had finally become a father.

Once the 形式順守s were 完全にするd, Glenn rang his architect partner Keith Millay to tell him the good news. Keith had remained at home, 許すing the couple to dodge ロシアの 法律s which banned gay 採択 but 許すd it for 選び出す／独身 men.

Two years later th eir little family was 完全にするd when they 可決する・採択するd three-year-old Max ? who was not 関係のある to Renat ? from the same orphanage. And so, with a beagle called Buddy as a family pet, their new life in London began.

At first, Glenn and Keith relished their new-設立する family life. But their hopes of a fairytale ending have turned into a living hell. They have been left penniless, and emotionally and 肉体的に 粉々にするd. Their 親切 has even put their lives in danger. Over the past six years Renat, who is now 21, has tried to strangle Glenn, 59, with a dog lead, and 強襲，強姦d both men.

Renat, now 21, (left) has tried to strangle Glenn, 59, with a dog lead and 強襲，強姦d both men. The couple have taken out a 抑制するing order, which he 大部分は ignores

He tried to 窒息させる his brother, 脅すd all three with knives and screwdrivers, 切り開く／タクシー／不正アクセスd into their bank accounts and went on spending sprees with their credit cards.

He has punched 抱擁する 穴を開けるs in the 塀で囲むs of their London home and 繰り返して 粉砕するd furniture, computers and TVs ? 原因（となる）ing tens of thousands of 続けざまに猛撃するs of 損失.

In desperation, Keith and Glenn 結局 called the police and a 抑制するing order was 問題／発行するd to stop Renat turning up at their East London home. He 大部分は ignores the order, leaving the men fearful for their safety.

Glenn 収容する／認めるs: ‘Our lives have turned into a ni ghtmare. We are 肉体的に, emotionally and financially destroyed.’

Neither parent imagined that life would turn out like this for them ? torn between feelings of love and 責任／義務 on one 手渡す and intolerable reality on the other. They are speaking now to 最高潮の場面 the 危険 every adoptive parent takes when they take a child from an orphanage into their home ? a child who may already be 損失d beyond 修理, and who may find it 特に hard to adjust to life with gay parents.

‘We knew we took a 危険 taking toddlers from an orphanage,’ says Glenn. ‘Their 寄宿舎 had 40 small beds crammed together, each one with a red number on the headboard. No adult slept with them and I don’t know if anyone would have heard them cry. The babies were left in their cots for much of the day. Older children were left to their own 装置s.

‘We were aware that both of them could have been 乱用d, 肉体的に, mentally or sexually. And when a child has been neglected, their ability to make 関係s or 信用 people is 影響する／感情d. They can be 傾向がある to learning and emotional difficulties. But we were willing to take the 危険 with toddlers because that’s the age group I teach.’

All they were able to discover about the boys’ history is that Renat was dropped off at the orphanage by his 20- year-old mother the day he was born and Max had been looked after by his grandmother for nine months after his mother abandoned him, until she could no longer manage

Glenn 追加するs: ‘I thought the 批判的な time would be when the boys were little. Keith was more aware that toddlers become 十代の少年少女s. He was 権利. It has been much worse than I imagined.’

All they were able to discover about the boys’ history is that Renat was dropped off at the orphanage by his 20-year-old mother the day he was born and Max had been looked after by his grandmother for nine months after his mother abandoned him, until she could no longer manage.

They hoped to give the boys a better 未来, but their lives in Britain were difficult from the start.

Max, who was tiny, struggled to speak. He had been so undernourished that his tongue hadn’t grown 適切に. Glenn and Keith paid for speech therapy for several years until he spoke perfectly.

As a child, Max would place a crocheted Chinese lantern carefully on his 病人の枕元 （米）棚上げする／（英）提議する, explaining: ‘It’s to catch all my nightmares, because they are very scary.’

Renat was moody and occasionally 積極的な, but articulate and 極端に 有望な. Both boys were often 孤立した, but Glenn and Keith put it 負かす／撃墜する to their traumatic experiences and difficulties with adapting to their new language and surroundings.

When Max was eight, he was 診断するd with high-機能（する）／行事ing autism, which Glenn calls ‘institutional autism’.?

He qualified for a 声明 of Special Needs which meant, の中で other things, that the 会議 paid his 料金s at a specialist school, Fairley House. Max believes the diagnosis saved his life.?

‘It meant I could stay in a school for children with learning difficulties which had very small classes,’ he sa id. ‘It was a 安全な 環境 for me, and I made decent friends. I 疑問 I would have 対処するd in a 明言する／公表する school and it’s probably why I am here now and not insane.’

He is 現在／一般に 繁栄するing at Portsmouth University, where he is doing a degree in biology. Keith, 64, says proudly: ‘Max has 目的（とする）s, is organised and very driven.’

As a child, Max would place a crocheted Chinese lantern carefully on his 病人の枕元 （米）棚上げする／（英）提議する, explaining: ‘It’s to catch all my nightmares, because they are very scary’

However, a request for Renat to be 声明d when he was a schoolboy was 拒絶するd on the grounds that he didn’t need one. Ever since, his life has taken a different ? and far darker ? path to his adoptive brother’s. Keith says: ‘Renat has become a danger to his parents, his younger brother and himself. Even the dog is terrified of him after he broke his tail.’

Unable to afford to send Renat to Fairley House, Glenn and Keith sent him instead to a いっそう少なく expensive 私的な school in London.

Both boys 収容する／認める they had difficulties at school 取引，協定ing with their fathers’ sexuality, and at the 頂点（に達する） of his 破壊的な behaviour Renat would even 訴える手段／行楽地 to 投げつけるing homophobic 乱用 at his parents.

‘Some of the children いじめ（る）d me because I had two dads and no mum so I used 暴力／激しさ against their words,’ Renat 解任するs. ‘I also took it out on G lenn and Keith because I felt it was their fault. I went through a homophobic 段階. I think gay parents need to be very 極度の慎重さを要する when they 可決する・採択する because of how other children may 反応する.’

Renat was asked to leave his school and went next to a boys’ 包括的な in North London, where his behaviour 悪化するd still その上の and he began to mix with a 地元の street ギャング（団）.

Renat was asked to leave his school and went next to a boys’ 包括的な in North London, where his behaviour 悪化するd still その上の and he began to mix with a 地元の street ギャング（団）

Glenn and Keith had paid for 私的な mental care and therapy, but were told that 十分な mental health 査定／評価s were not 利用できる for boys over 14.?

Social 労働者s were 割り当てるd, but appeared to take little 活動／戦闘 about the 損失 to their home. ‘At 15 he would いつかs be out all night and we were worried sick,’ said Keith. ‘After a few months he dropped out of school altogether, then 辞退するd to leave the house for six months. He became incredibly violent and we couldn’t 対処する.’

Finally the 暴力／激しさ got so bad, they had no choice but to call the police and 適用する for the banning order. Keith was 荒廃させるd. ‘The only thing left was to criminalise him, which is terrible. He has spent more than ten nights in a police 独房 since he was 15.’

After a pe riod spent sleeping on park （法廷の）裁判s or 避難所ing in 24-hour McDonald’s restaurants, Renat has now 設立する a 職業 in a pub and is 準備するing to move into a flatshare in March.?

He 収容する／認めるs he is still violent, though he says his parents are no longer the 的. ‘I break their 所有物／資産／財産 instead,’ he says.?

The 蓄積するd cost of Renat’s behaviour is shocking. Glenn 見積（る）s it at about £60,000 just in the last six weeks, 伴う／関わるing 損失 to a new 木材／素質 床に打ち倒す, 塀で囲むs, さまざまな antiques, 電気の 器具／備品 and a computer.?

‘We can’t afford to keep 修理ing everything because our 財政／金融s are 悲惨な,’ says Glenn.

‘Our bank account is 永久的に in the red. Our three credit cards are maxed out and we can’t get through the month without taking payday 貸付金s.’

For Keith and Glenn, the result is a mixture of 恐れる and 犯罪. ‘I feel bad about our 失敗 to get any 肉親，親類d of proper help for Renat, 拒絶するing him and making him homeless,’ Glenn 収容する／認めるs. ‘We also feel 犯罪 about Max because we didn’t 保護する him and he has 苦しむd 不正に at Renat’s 手渡すs.’

Last April Renat 崩壊（する）d and spent a week in 集中的な care at the 王室の 解放する／自由な Hospital, Hampstead. Doctors 診断するd 墓／厳粛／彫る／重大な’s 病気, a ありふれた 原因（となる） of hyperthyroidism, which can 原因（となる） hyperactivity, 苦悩, psychosis and other behavioural problems.

Both fathers 粘着する on to the hope that this might be a 推論する／理由 for his 破壊的な behaviour. Long-称する，呼ぶ／期間／用語 治療 is needed. Glenn says: ‘Mental health 査定／評価 and support is 極端に difficult to 接近, I want to help 改善する the system and to connect with other adoptive couples who have 苦しむd like we have,’ says Glenn.

Having 耐えるd such torment, do they 悔いる the 採択s? ‘‘There are moments I wish I hadn’t,’ Glenn 収容する／認めるs. ‘I still wa nt to believe that, with the 権利 肉親，親類d of help and 治療, Renat could make something of his life. He deserves that chance.’

Renat is at least starting to show a flicker of 悔恨 for his behaviour. ‘I am 感謝する I wasn’t left in the orphanage, but I cannot 支配（する）／統制する my temper if I am at their house,’ he says. ‘いつかs I feel 有罪の afterwards.’ He has 適用するd to do a 創立／基礎 course at university, hoping 結局 to 熟考する／考慮する mechanical 工学.

How likely that is without proper mental support is anyone’s guess. If he manages it, Keith and Glenn’s nightmare may at last be over.

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