BEL MOONEY IMAGINES: At 53, I'm in fabulous 形態／調整 and like to flaunt it... but critics tell me I'm an attention 探検者 who should cover up. Are they 権利 - or am I?
Our brilliant advice columnist Bel Mooney has answered thousands of readers’ letters over the years. But what if the rich and famous turned to her for peerless advice about their own problems??
Each week we 招待する Bel to look behind the headlines and ponder an imaginary celebrity 窮地 that we have made up for her (tongue 堅固に in cheek). In turn, Bel will take the letter at 額面価格, just as she does with all those that 注ぐ into her famous column each week.
She will give an honest answer ? so celebrities and 政治家，政治屋s, listen up!?This week, we imagine what Heart Breakfast host Amanda Holden?might 令状 in a letter to Bel.
Dear Bel,
As a 53-year-old mother of two teenage girls, I am in better 形態／調整 than most women my age. I'm not afraid to 明らかにする／漏らす my 人物／姿／数字 with daring fashion choices - 急落（する），激減（する）ing necklines and 人物／姿／数字-hugging frocks.?My social マスコミ is peppered with pictures of my taut stomach in bikinis - I have an 集中的な fitness 政権, so why not show off my results??
Recently I even 提起する／ポーズをとるd naked in a 無線で通信する 駅／配置する studio for a life-製図／抽選 開会／開廷／会期, 主要な to a 同僚 需要・要求するing I 'put a 最高の，を越す on'. But my 世代 of women won't fade into the background. Why should we??
However, not everyone thinks my 欠如（する） of inhibition is such a good thing: my outfits have drawn thousands of （民事の）告訴s and critics have branded me an attention 探検者 who should cover up. Are they 権利 - or am I?
From, Amanda
Amanda Holden, 53, has drawn 賞賛する and 批評 for her 欠如（する） of inhibition
Recently Amanda 提起する／ポーズをとるd naked in a 無線で通信する 駅／配置する studio for a life-製図／抽選 開会／開廷／会期, 主要な to a 同僚 需要・要求するing she 'put a 最高の，を越す on'
Bel Mooney replies: Do you want the bad news first, or the good news? I'm afraid even the good news has a nugget of gloom at its heart. You're beautiful. You have every 権利 to enjoy 存在 fit (in both senses of the word) for just as long as you can - though you should remember that nothing can stop the ageing 過程. No, not even an army of beauticians and aestheticians costing a Louis Vuitton trunkful of dosh. That's how it is.
And the really bad news? Someone, somewhere, will always criticise you because they're a) jealous or b) just plain mean.?And いつかs they will really 傷つける your feelings, even though you always hide it 井戸／弁護士席.?
What will you do if a beloved family member whispers that your 急落（する），激減（する）ing necklines are just a little bit embarrassing for them? What you have to decide is how much you care.
How I'd love to know the sex of the 同僚 who 教えるd you to 'put a 最高の，を越す on'! I'm guessing 女性（の）, or is that 不公平な? Sadly I know how catty women can be when they wave goodbye to sisterhood.?
Of course, it might have been an embarrassed male 同僚 officiously 保護するing your modesty. But I 推定する／予想する those 'thousands of （民事の）告訴s' come from men and women alike. I'd ask why they 港／避難所't better things to do. Surely moaning at celebrities is the 調印する of a sad life?
So you ask me who's '権利' ? them or you. Since I'm an old-school feminist it may surprise you to know I am on your 味方する. Why shouldn't you be pleased with the 直面する and 人物／姿／数字 you 現在の to the world??
I enjoy beauty in men and in women; it's a 広大な／多数の／重要な gift, after all. But are you 'an attention 探検者'? Most of us enjoy attention ? and I admire a woman with the 信用／信任 to strut her stuff. But what happens when the attention's the wrong sort? Be very careful. Don't become so 堅い that you 辞退する to listen to those who wish you 井戸／弁護士席.
Which takes me 支援する to the good-bad news I gave you at the beginning. For now, your 欠如（する） of inhibition is just 罰金, because you're still gorgeous and I wish you the very best of luck.?
But honestly, looks change so 急速な／放蕩な and not even you can flaunt them for ever. You've a way to go yet, but the day will come when the low-削減（する） 最高の，を越すs rea lly don't do you any favours ? and I hope you'll be self-aware enough to recognise that moment.?
Always remember that the essence of what you have to give to the world should still be there when you can't pull off looking sexy any more. Ask your daughters what that is. I reckon they'll tell the truth.
