I 辞退するd to 交換（する） beds with my 加える-sized friend on a trip - now she says I'm 不当な

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A woman has 明らかにする／漏らすd how she 辞退するd to 交換（する） beds with her 加える-sized friend on vacation - but is now 存在 branded as '不当な.'

The woman in her 30s, from the US, too to Reddit's popular Am I The A**穴を開ける thread to unravel the 詳細（に述べる）s of the 反目，不和.

She explained how the squabble had started over room 配分s which left her friend in 涙／ほころびs.

But readers were left 激しく divided in the comments as to who was really in the wrong.?

The woman in her 30s, from the US, too to Reddit's popular Am I The A**穴を開ける thread to unravel the 詳細（に述べる）s o f the 反目，不和?

The 地位，任命する, which was 株d earlier this week, began with the 無名の holidaymaker 明らかにする／漏らすing that she was going on vacation with four friends - all women in their 30s and 40s.

She explained: 'We go every year and always use a randomized 選択 道具 to help us choose who gets which bedroom. The 道具 割り当てるs the order in which we can choose. I got third choice and my 加える size friend Marie got fifth choice.

'The first three of us all chose the queen size beds. The other two got twin beds and had to 株 a room. Yeah, it sucks, but that's why we leave it up to chance so nobody can complain.'

The exasperated woman continued: 'Marie asked me 個人として if we could switch places so she can have the queen-size bed. She is 加える size but in my opinion not so big she can't fit in a twin bed.

'I 本人自身で have lost over 100lbs and at my largest was bigger than Marie is now. I never once asked to switch beds when I was bigger.

'I therefore said no. She started crying and told me I was 存在 不当な, and that I of all people should understand.?

'I do understand, but it's my vacation too and I've worked hard to be in a 団体／死体 I'm comfortable in. I don't feel like I should give up my 位置／汚点／見つけ出す to 融通する her, when she can still fit in the twin bed.'

The 初めの poster later edited her 地位，任命する to 追加する その上の 状況.

The Reddit 地位，任命する has been flooded with comments with readers left 激しく divided on the 事柄. On the one 手渡す, there were many who branded her as the a**穴を開ける?

She explained: 'We agreed ahead of time that the two people who got the twin beds would 支払う／賃金 $75 いっそう少なく than the 残り／休憩（する） of us. It's just way too expensive to get a place with five rooms and five queen beds.

'She doesn't have any mobility 問題／発行するs or other disabilities that I'm aware of.

'She never explicitly 申し込む／申し出d the $75 支援する to me, but I honestly can't imagine she didn't have that in mind when asking to switch. She's not the monster a lot of you are assuming she is.'

に引き続いて 普及した uproar in the comments, the woman continued: 'Many people 示唆するd it might be more about her 不快 about 株ing a room, and not as much about out the bed.?

'That would make way more sense to me. When I was bigger, I used to snore and was 完全に embarrassed when I had to sleep in a room with someone.

'Many also 示唆するd I am 欠如（する）ing empathy. It is true, I do not feel empathy. It is a long standing 問題／発行する with my mental health, and is why I often 地位，任命する on this account asking for help.?

'I don't want to be a d**k, so I rely on honest people to call me out. So I do 高く評価する／（相場などが）上がる it, even though many people who said these things were downvoted.'

But, on the other 手渡す, some readers argued that the woman was not 現実に the one in the wrong?

The Reddit 地位，任命する has been flooded with comments with readers left 激しく divided on the 事柄.

On the one 手渡す, there were many who branded her as the a**穴を開ける.

One person wrote: 'Hot take. YTA. She's embarrassed, comes to you from a place of vulnerability, and your 返答 was, "堅い luck fatty, you should work as hard as me to be in a 団体／死体 you're comfortable with."

'People （不足などを）補う so much 演劇 about their rooms on vacation - it's about the memories you build with the people you're on the trip with, not about the time you spend alone in your bed room.?

'This isn't really a question about 存在 an AH. It's a question about values.?Which do you value more - your friendship with this person, or sleeping in a queen bed for a few nights?'

A second person wrote: 'YTA. The randomized 選択 of rooms is a ter rible idea. You had to have known that at some point someone was bound to have 問題／発行するs with the bed they received.?

'How difficult is it to make sure everyone receives comfortable accommodations, even if it means 支払う／賃金ing more??

'Also, many twin size bed でっちあげる，人を罪に陥れるs have a 負わせる 限界 of 250 続けざまに猛撃するs, which means, it's not a 事柄 of a 加える sized person not wanting to sleep on a twin size bed, but a 事柄 of their 負わせる 越えるing the 負わせる 限界 of the bed でっちあげる，人を罪に陥れる.?

She explained how the squabble had started over room 配分s which left her friend in 涙／ほころびs (在庫／株 image)

'Marie may have been terrified of breaking the bed, or of undressing in 前線 of someone else, which is why she approached you and asked to switch.?

'As someone who had once been heavier, she believed you would understand her 恐れる. Instead, you 無効にするd her 恐れる.'

Another 追加するd: 'Yes, for no 推論する／理由 other than y ou HAD to について言及する your 負わせる loss in your story, which to me means you now 明確に have no empathy for someone who struggles with their 負わせる, and you are supposed to be her friend.'

A fourth person commented: 'YTA for having a smug, superior 態度 about your 負わせる loss. YTA for looking 負かす／撃墜する on your friend. I don't five a f**k about the beds - you should 捨てる her so she can find some true friends.'

But, on the other 手渡す, some argued that she was not in the wrong.

One person wrote: 'NTA.?This is the agreed upon method of 決定するing beds. If she doesn't like the results, then she shouldn't have agreed to the 体制／機構. Also, there's 絶対 no 原因（となる） for her to 需要・要求する larger than a twin.'

Someone else commented: 'NTA. You all have an 設立するd 協定 for 選ぶing rooms. If she had an 問題／発行する with that, she should've said something beforehand. 推定する／予想するing you to give up your room is 不当な.'

A third person 追加するd: 'On the 仮定／引き受けること that the randomized 選択 道具 is truly randomized, and on the 仮定／引き受けること that the five of you agreed to be bound by this 過程, NTA.'

Another wrote: 'NTA, she agreed to this 計画（する）. When it didn't work out to her preference, she asked if you would switch. A reasonable thing to ask IF she will 尊敬（する）・点 your 返答, which she's not.'