The 性の habit you should never try to 禁止（する） your husband from! TRACEY COX 明らかにする／漏らすs how some women try to 禁止（する） 単独の sex - and 警告するs it can lead to 憤慨 and 妨害する his 業績／成果 in bed

By Tracey Cox for MailOnline

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Almost everyone masturbates ? 95 per cent of men and 81 per cent of women 収容する／認める to doing it at some point.

Which is probably why nine in 10 of us are comfortable if our partner continues to do it once in a 関係. Most believe it complements partner sex and 追加するs to erotic satisfaction.

But not all. Some women believe masturbation isn't necessary or appropriate in a 関係 because the man should 満足させる all his 性の needs with his partner.

Others believe 単独の sex is a betrayal and the only permissible sex is partner sex. Still more believe watching porn ? the bacon to the eggs of 単独の sex ? is both cheating and disgusting.

British relationship and sex expert Tracey Cox?revealed the impact of stopping your husband from masturbating (stock image)

British 関係 and sex 専門家 Tracey Cox?明らかにする／漏らすd the 衝撃 of stopping your husband from masturbating (在庫／株 image)?

In some 事例／患者s, women even 需要・要求する their partn ers stop having 単独の sex and 脅す to leave if they find out they've disobeyed the '支配するs'.

They do so at their own 危険，危なくする as this is what is likely to happen if you stop your partner from doing what he wants to his own 団体／死体.

JUST FOUND OUT YOUR PARTNER STILL MASTURBATES?

Panic not…

It doesn't mean he's not getting enough sex with you.

It doesn't mean he isn't enjoying the sex he has with you.

It doesn't mean he's not attracted to you.

It doesn't mean he wants you to look like the women he's looking at onscreen.

It doesn't mean he wants you to do what he's watching while masturbating.

It doesn't qualify as cheating ? unless there's interaction between him and the person/people he's watching.

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He'll be angry and resentful

Understandably so. If someone told me I wasn't 許すd to use my vibrator when I was alone, my reaction would be 乱暴／暴力を加える.

Masturbating is personal. If it's not 影響する／感情ing your sex life together in a 消極的な way, it's no-one's 商売／仕事 but your own how and when you do it.

Privacy is the 創立／基礎 for a happy, healthy 関係. Trying to 支配（する）／統制する what your partner does with their 団体／死体 when you aren't around is a 違反 of that. What's next? Telling them they can't fantasise?

It's also pointless.

Most men 見解（をとる） masturbating to porn as nothing more than scratching a 性の itch and 害のない entertainment. If he sees nothing wrong with it, why would he stop it?

He'll assume you don't enjoy sex

Very few women who enjoy masturbating would stop their partners doing the same. Having sex with yourself 申し込む／申し出s the 適切な時期 to be 完全に 解放する／自由な and selfish. There's no-one to impress or be 裁判官d by. You can fantasise about or watch whatever takes your fancy. It's 解放するing, exciting and 広大な／多数の／重要な for your libido.

Women who not only don't mind their partner masturbating but have no 裁判／判断, usually have high libidos and are adventurous in bed.

Tracey (pictu red) said: 'Some women believe masturbation isn't necessary or appropriate in a relationship because the man should satisfy all his sexual needs with his partner'

Tracey (pictured) said: 'Some women believe masturbation isn't necessary or appropriate in a 関係 because the man should 満足させる all his 性の needs with his partner'

Couples who talk about masturbation 率直に and honestly are the couples who tick the '極端に 満足させるd' box in all sex 熟考する／考慮するs.

'We'll have a joke about it,' one man told me. 'She'll try to guess what 部類 of porn I choose. It's the first time I 港／避難所't had to hide it or be 隠しだてする. I've never been happier.'

He'll want sex with you far more often

It's (明白に) 承認する to not want sex as often as your partner does. It's not 承認する to stop the one '許容できる' 出口 he has for 満足させるing himself when you don't want it. That's both 不公平な and unethical.

Most couples have some 肉親，親類d of 不平等 with sex 運動s. In almost all 事例／患者s, the 妥協 of how often is made in favour of the person with the lower sex 運動. If one wants sex five times a week and the other five times a month, it's 高度に ありそうもない they'll say, '権利! Three times a week it is then!'.

It's usually not a 本物の 妥協. The only 推論する／理由 people agree to it, is that they kno w the unspoken (or spoken) 協定 is that they will 試みる／企てる to 満足させる themselves when partner sex isn't on 申し込む／申し出.

HERE'S WHAT WOMEN THINK ABOUT THEIR PARTNER'S SOLO SEX SESSIONS

Here's what they told me.

'I know he waits for me to leave the house before he does it. He 明白に has some unmet need that I can't 満足させる. It feels sneaky.'

'I 設立する him doing it under a 一面に覆う／毛布 in his office. He could have woken me up for sex and I would have been happy to give it to him. It made me feel unwanted and unattractive.'

'I think my partner likes to think it would bother me ? he やめる likes it when I 行為／法令／行動する jealous ? but I honestly don't care いっそう少なく if he does it.'

'I like to watch him do it, I find it sexy. It's normal and healthy. The only 問題／発行する I'd ever have is if it was negatively 影響する／感情ing our sex life in some way.'

'So long as it's not with someone on Instagram or someone he knows. That would be a 取引，協定 breaker. But さもなければ, I'm perfectly 罰金 about it.'?

'I don't think it's bad to not want your partner to look at and think about other people in a 性の way when you're in a monogamous 関係.'

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除去する this and it's a very different story.

If you're asking your partner to stop masturbating because you want them to have more sex with you, go 権利 ahead and 示唆する it.

Asking them to stop and put up with having their 性の needs unmet, is 不当な ? and dangerous.

A sexually unsatisfied partner is an unhappy one.

There is no 研究 that links not 存在 '許すd' to masturbate to infidelity but there's plenty of anecdotal 証拠 that shows he may 井戸／弁護士席 be more tempted to cheat.

He'll be いっそう少なく in 支配（する）／統制する of his orgasm

Masturbating teaches us about how our 団体／死体s work: what we like and don't like. For women, 単独の sex is usually how we first learn how to have an orgasm. For men, it's an important means of learning how to 支配（する）／統制する ejaculation.

If he's a premature ejaculator ? finishes before he or you are ready ? it's likely to happen more if he stops masturbating. Not just because having a 単独の sex 開会／開廷／会期 before he has sex with you means he'll last longer. But because learning to 支配（する）／統制する the moment of pre-ejaculatory inevitability (the moment when his football team could walk in, and it still wouldn't stop it happening) is best mastered during masturbation. '頂点（に達する）ing' ? learning to 支配（する）／統制する levels of 願望（する） ? is a technique that can only be done during 単独の sex.

He'll lose out on many health 利益s

補足（する）ing the orgasms you're already having with your partner with extra 単独の ones is 広大な／多数の／重要な news for your health.

Masturbating 供給するs 強調する／ストレス and 苦痛 救済 and 上げるs your 免疫の system. It 改善するs heart h ealth, lowers 苦悩, 減ずるs the 危険 of type-2 糖尿病 and, in men, can help 妨げる 癌. The more a man ejaculates, the lower his 危険 of prostate 癌.

It's also a natural sleeping pill. 正規の／正選手 orgasms 誘発する／引き起こす the 解放（する） of oxytocin and endorphins, 改善するing our mood and making us feel happier and 満足させるd.

The more orgasms your 団体／死体 has, the better it feels.

HOW WOULD YOU REACT IF YOUR PARTNER BANNED YOU FROM SOLO SEX?

Here's what men said when I 提起する／ポーズをとるd that question.

'It's my 団体／死体, I don't need a 解放する／自由な pass from you to give myself 楽しみ.'

'I had an ex who 主張するd on me telling her when I was ーするつもりであるing to masturbate. I mean, 本気で? Who 計画（する）s something like that?'

'I'm 極度の慎重さを要する and I orgasm quickly. Too quickly. Having lots of 単独の sex helps me 持つ／拘留する off when I have sex with her. It would have a bad 影響 on our sex together.'

'I'd be furious. My wife would also be very angry if I told her when she could and couldn't touch her own 団体／死体. It's controlling and arrogant to think you have the 権利 to dictate what your partner does to their 団体／死体 in 私的な.'

'Masturbating is different than sex. Sex with her is like a three-course meal, 単独の sex is a 軽食 you 得る，とらえる when you feel hungry.'

'My wife isn't a sex doll. She's not in my life to have sex with whenever the hell I feel like it. If I feel like getting off and I can tell now isn't the time, it's respectful to DIY.'

'If I have a partner, then why would I have a 願望（する） to masturbate? I would want to save that orgasmic experience and 株 it with them. If men still want to masturbate with a partner beside them, there's something 行方不明の - and that's probably honest communication.'

'It's just something I do. I don't give it another thought. I can't imagine having a partner telling me to stop. My reaction would be, 'Are you my mother or my lover?'.'

'If my 未来 girlfriend considered masturbating cheating, I wouldn't do it. Her happiness would always be my 優先.'

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Is it ever 承認する to 禁止（する） your partner from masturbating?

No. But it is 承認する to ASK them to take a break from it, if ? and only if - the 目的（とする） is to 高める partner sex.

If either of you masturbate 定期的に, stopping may 増加する your 願望（する） for each other. 存在 each other's 単独の source of 性の stimulation can be incredibly erotic and bring you closer.

It will also make you more attuned to each other's natural 願望（する） cycle. If your partner tells you every 選び出す／独身 time they get the 勧める to have sex, you'll have a true 指示，表示する物 of just how often they really want it. This may encourage you both to be fairer with the 'how often' 妥協, so it's not so massively skewed に向かって the low sex 運動 person.

Not watching porn can also have 肯定的な consequences, 特に for men who 混乱させる porn sex with real life sex. Porn is entertainment, not sex education. I also 完全に get that some people find porn unethical as an 産業.

Asking a partner to 棄権する from watching porn ? rather than asking them to stop masturbation - is a different request.

Tracey's 最新の 調書をとる／予約する, 広大な／多数の／重要な Sex Starts at 50, is the ultimate guide for happy long-称する，呼ぶ／期間／用語 sex. You'll find info about Tracey's other 調書をとる／予約するs, podcasts and 製品s at traceycox.com.