DEAR JANE:?I'm 55, 選び出す／独身, and HATE my 団体／死体 - will I EVER have sex again?

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Dear Jane,

I am 55 years old, 離婚d for three years now ? and I’m starting to feel like my life is over.

I understand that 55 is not ‘young’ by any stretch of the imagination, but until recently, I never really felt all that old. But lately I’ve started to lose hope that I’ll ever really find happiness again.?

My 離婚 really took the 勝利，勝つd out of my sails and left me feeling pretty dang horrible about myself. We’d been married for 30 years so for it all to suddenly come 衝突，墜落ing 負かす／撃墜する around me was a bit of a shock.

It’s the typical sob story ? he left me for someone younger, skinnier, prettier… a tale as old as time.

Dear Jane, my husband 捨てるd me for a younger, prettier woman - now I'm terrified nobody will ever want to date me, or have sex with me, again

But even though I’ve heard it 1,000 times, it’s really 攻撃する，衝突する me where it 傷つけるs.?

特に because on the few occasions that I have 投機・賭けるd 支援する out into the dating world, it seems that every guy is looking for that exact same thing.?

Anyone my age wants someone younger ? and I’m not in the market for someone 30+ years older than me!

I know there are things I can do to 上げる my 信用／信任 and perhaps feel a bit better about how I look (hello gym 会員の地位!) but I’m terrified that even that’s not going to help me.?

It sounds a bit 劇の but I feel as though I’m 存在 軍隊d to 受託する that I might never have a 関係 ? or sex! ? ever again. And at 55 that’s just not something I ever 想像するd for myself.

International best-selling author Jane Green 申し込む／申し出s 下落する advice on DailyMail.com readers' most 燃やすing 問題／発行するs in her Dear Jane agony aunt column

Any thoughts on how I can 上げる my success in the bedroom?

From,

Taking a Dive at 55

Dear Taking a Dive at 55,

As a fellow 55-year-old, I find my heart breaking at reading your letter, and know just what this feels like.

It sounds like this 離婚 has been enormously painful for you, and it’s 完全に natural that your 信用／信任 has been knocked.?

But, darling Diver, our 団体／死体s aren’t supposed to be perfect at 55, and the truth is that even though we may look in the mirrors and see only 下落するs, pouches and varicose veins, men do not see our 団体／死体s in the same ways.

What strikes me 圧倒的に is the 関係 you need to put all your 焦点（を合わせる） on 権利 now is the one with yourself. When we hate our 団体／死体s and ourselves, it makes it very hard for someone else to love us.?

I would 示唆する finding a good therapist to dig 負かす／撃墜する to the roots of your self-憎悪, and, as 支持を得ようと努める-支持を得ようと努める as it may sound, 追加するing some 団体／死体-肯定的な meditations into your daily practice.

There is so much 圧力 for us all to be taut, トンd and perfect, but at our age, the greatest gift we can give ourselves is 受託. Our 団体／死体s have carried us, have ? in many 事例／患者s ? created children, and the softness and curves are all part of who we are supposed to be.?

Look at every 広大な／多数の／重要な work of art through history ? the more Rubenesque, the more beautiful women were perceived to be.

Find people, hobbies, events that make you feel good. Learn a language you’ve always 手配中の，お尋ね者 to learn. Take the 焦点（を合わせる） off sex and finding a 交替／補充 man and の上に 落ちるing in love with yourself and your life.

Dear Jane,

I’m a junior in college and this year started taking a course with a professor who was new to my college. The two of us got off on a very wrong 公式文書，認める when I was accidentally late to his first class, which resulted in him lecturing me about my ‘s****y time 管理／経営 技術s’ in 前線 of everyone for about 25 minutes.

I わびるd and even sent a follow up email later that day to 表明する my 悔いる over the 状況／情勢, hoping that would put an end to the whole thing.

But ever since then, he’s been so 汚い to me every 選び出す／独身 time I’m in his class, routinely tormenting me in 前線 of all my friends. Anytime he needs to call on someone to answer an impossible question, he 選ぶs me, then makes fun of me when I get it wrong. It’s humiliating.?

He seems to take some 肉親，親類d of perverse 楽しみ in making me look like a 完全にする idiot.

And as if the public 拷問 wasn’t bad enough, he’s also taken to giving me 絶対 appalling grades ? no 事柄 how much 成果／努力 I put into my work ? without any 建設的な feedback. I’m genuinely starting to worry that he’s going to 戦車／タンク my entire course.

The whole thing is making me so 哀れな that I’m tempted to just 減少（する） his course, take some time out, and re-start next year, even though I know it will 始める，決める me 支援する.

Am I an idiot for giving in?

From,

堅い Lesson

Dear 堅い Lesson,

I am so proud of you for owning your 初期の mistake and sending a follow-up email わびるing. To see this 肉親，親類d of 成熟 and 責任／義務 in someone so young is a 楽しみ to behold.

Unfortunately, however 井戸／弁護士席 you have behaved, your professor is behaving appallingly.?

I would start by sending him an email 文書ing this and letting him know you are aware of what he is doing, after which, start 文書ing everything.?

Have someone get 許可 to 記録，記録的な／記録する the class if your 明言する／公表する 要求するs 許可 to 記録，記録的な／記録する, and start 記録，記録的な／記録するing. Email anything you need to say to him, 含むing questions as to why he is giving you such low grades.

You need to create a paper 追跡する to 証明する what is going on, after which time, should it continue, I would go straight to the Dean of the school with all your 証拠, to 開始する，打ち上げる an 調査.

You still may decide to take some time off, but you can still 扱う this 適切な and maturely, 確実にするing that this 行為 is 文書d and you have proof. I wish you so much luck.