- ?Dr Julie Smith, from Hampshire, 明らかにする／漏らすs 調印するs you're in an abusive 関係
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A psychologist has 明らかにする／漏らすd the hidden ways that an abusive partner may be manipulating you into staying with them.?
Dr Julie Smith, a 臨床の psychologist with a 私的な practice in Hampshire, took to her TikTok?to 演説（する）／住所 those who may be stuck in an unhealthy 関係.???
She often speaks about mental health online, with ビデオs on how to build your 信用／信任, why you may be procrastinating, and the 調印するs that you might have 苦悩.?
In one clip, she talked about six 重要な 調印するs people should watch out for in their partners.
The 専門家 started by 説 that abusers will often try to draw your attention away from your friends and family to 孤立する you.?
Dr Ju 嘘（をつく） Smith, took to her TikTok to 演説（する）／住所 those who may be stuck in an abusive 関係
'They 除去する any outside 視野s so theirs is the only narrative you get to hear, she said.
The 医療の professional 追加するd that they switch moods easily, often going from affectionate to 積極的な.
This can lead to 犠牲者s feeling 混乱させるd about whether the 関係 they're in is normal, healthy and good.?
The next 警告 調印する is if your partner makes you feel insecure and as though you cannot 達成する anything without them.?
'They 半導体素子 away at your 信用／信任 and your own 知能 and your capacity to do things so you start to question whether you can even 機能（する）／行事 without them,'?Dr Smith explained.
Another red 旗 of a manipulative 関係 is if they 限界 接近 to your money and 監視する your spending.?
'It makes it feel almost impossible to leave,' Dr Smith 追加するd.?
The fifth 調印する of a controlling abuser is if they 脅す to 害（を与える） themselves or you. Dr Smith 追加するd that this can be a powerful way to 罠（にかける） 犠牲者s and 妨げる them from leaving.
Dr Julie Smith said abusive partners may 行為／法令／行動する charming if they feel like you're going to leave them?
The clip has been 見解（をとる）d almost 600,000 times and has racked up hundreds of comments from 使用者s
The psychologist went on to 明らかにする／漏らす the sixth red 旗, which is when the person you're in a 関係 with starts making 約束s to change.
She 追加するd that they will only tend to do this if they feel 脅すd that their 犠牲者 might leave them.?
'The 乱用 is 取って代わるd with the charm and the love you saw at the beginning of the 関係, you want to believe it can get better, so you give it another go. But the cycle continues.'
She captioned the TikTok 地位，任命する: 'For those who find themselves wanting to leave a 関係 and 非難するing themselves for finding it hard to break away, it’s never been as 平易な as you tell yourself it should be.?
'If your partner is using any combinati on of these 巧みな操作s, you will be more 孤立するd, 攻撃を受けやすい, and 混乱させるd about how best to proceed.?
'Not because there is anything wrong with you, but because that is the 影響 these behaviours have on most people.'
She 追加するd that finding a form of support is '決定的な' and said this might be a friend, 信用d family member or professional.?
The clip has been 見解（をとる）d almost 600,000 times and has racked up hundreds of comments from 使用者s.?
One wrote: '[That]'s] why I 離婚d him! I’m 解放する／自由な.'
Another 追加するd: 'This 適用するs to abusive 経営者／支配人s at work. They will 孤立する you, keep you so busy and 妨げる you looking for something better. Glad I 辞職するd.'?
'I lost my 職業 and destroyed my career,' a third 自白するd. 'Please be 確信して and leave at the first 誘発する of this 巧みな操作.'
A fourth commented: ''Thank you so much for making me understand.'
- If you need to speak to somebody, you can call the?Freephone 国家の 国内の 乱用 Helpline, run by 避難 on 0808 2000 247 for 解放する／自由な at any time.
